Battle of the Exes

[bluesummer]

Yeah, it's punishment enough that she's dating him.

[DoesntMatter]

What really got my goat last night was that his gf posted some thing on her Facebook mocking me, saying "Funny how people change when it comes to money! How pathetic!"

I'd like to slap them both stupid.

Don't take that shit!

Just to expand on what I meant by creativity... There are devices made for the sole purpose of producing a very specific frequency that induces nausea and vomiting. Some are more powerful than others

[bluesummer]

edit: Oh damn, nevermind about the truck. That sucks balls. I hope you find comfort in the idea that what goes around comes around.

Oh yes, I totally believe that karma is a bitch.

[lesa]

Oh, I see...the boyfriend is angry about the non-payment. Hmmm, I would reassure him that I am okay with letting it go. You definitely do not want the bf to carry any animosities of the ex into the relationship. He needs absolutely no energy spent on the ex...ever.

[anachronistic]

What really got my goat last night was that his gf posted some thing on her Facebook mocking me, saying "Funny how people change when it comes to money! How pathetic!"

I'd like to slap them both stupid.

Lol we will see how she feels when she is in a similar predicament... then you can step in and giver her the ol' slap in the face. But hopefully she stays with him and has a miserable marriage.

Don't let those kinds of things bother you; that's what irresponsible people say.

[misombra]

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[IndiReloaded]

Oh yes, I totally believe that karma is a bitch.

I agree w/what Miso said, let it go. Esp if your loan situation is a bit dodgy, you don't want to get into a situation where *he* complains. Things can often be argued more than one way.

Walk away Blue. $3500 isn't a lot of money for your peace of mind. As for the GF, she's nothing & you know *exactly* what she's getting. I'd just block her & don't even bother yourself anymore. Pity her if you can.

I think if you pursue this, you'll only be causing yourself grief. For what, a bit of money & some 'revenge'? You already mentioned karma, so you know where that's gonna go.

Just let go & be grateful you're free from this turd. You're lucky you didn't have to go to divorce court. Things could have been much, much more difficult.

[starbuck]

I agree with the others about letting it go. It's like a scar that never heals. But if you let it go, it will heal. Your bf just needs to respect that. I'm sure he just wants the best for you, but this is your issue to deal with in whatever way you see fit.

Getting financially used can feel just as bad as being physically and emotionally used. Don't prolong your pain. Coming out of a relationship with a manipulator, I can definitely empathize.

[misombra]

my friend is going through a situation where she had to hire an attorney for her divorce. she wanted to do it pro se but her husband is such a liar and a manipulator that she couldn't get any truthful information out of him.

she's spending just about what your ex owes you in attorney and court fees.

[Mish]

I'm with miso on this, the money is not worth the stress and loss of health. Use this as an opportunity to slam the door on your ex completely, from now on he doesn't exist.

[Lipp]

Can definitely understand your boyfriend's point of view, having the other ex "win" in such a way is just disturbing. When dealing with a jerk and legal methods not being an option I guess there's not much else you can do.

I probably didn't quite understand the whole loaning and selling-to-loan process with you and your sister and his sister, but is there any way for your sister to not pay the remaining $3000 or so of the loan as he wont be able to pursue the money legally either? If it means that she is paying the loan to him/his sister so that he/his sister then pays it to the bank.

If you look for a retort, well, having a " F**k it, keep the money, I don't want anything from someone like you" sounds alright to me.

[bluesummer]

Thanks, guys.

He emailed me this morning, acting all hurt, and like I was some greedy bitch that painted him as some devil when he really had such good intentions. He's going to pay me, OF COURSE, so he says. It's just that his Dad has cancer, and his work bonus wasn't as big as expected, and blah blah blah. Aaargh.

I talked it out with my bf last night and told him I just want to cut and run. Even just the thought of that loser causes me stress, and I'm done with that. I have a much better life now, but as long as he's still 'around', I feel like I can't be completely happy.

[Mish]

but as long as he's still 'around', I feel like I can't be completely happy.

He doesn't HAVE to be around

Cut him out completely

[IndiReloaded]

You could always cut AND still try to get paid, Blue. Use some reverse psych as a parting shot. Tell him that you doubt he'll *ever* do well enough for himself to ever be able to afford to pay you. Try to be as scornful as you can while still seeming like you feel completely sorry for him.

He will HATE that & will try to pay you *something* I'd bet as soon as he can, to salve his ego. If he doesn't then you can always truly feel bad for him b/c that's a broken man, if so.

Bitchy and manipulative? Yes, of course. But your ex is a cheating, abusive turd who doesn't deserve better, so shrug.

[Mish]

Hehe, I like that Indi