my ex and i broke up a year ago...and tried being friends.... he said things that i wanted to hear so id **** him, and he used me. then he started ****ing some fat chick and lied about it.... men are dogs. the point is....being friends with an ex.... is not gonna happen till ur both ready a lot of time has passed, and helps if u both are happy with someone else. u obviously still care about him moe than just a friend b/c u are trying really hard, which i understand, but from what it sounds like u two arent ready fro friendship yet. and honestly if he was raging dbag, why do u want to be friends with his nasty pathetic ass anyway, im guilty of the same thing. u need to block contact for a while.