Anyone feel sex is a chore?

[trouble_sleepin]

Actually, I had that happen with me and my ex... Sounds to me like this is taking its' toll on your relationship. It sounds like you both should be more patient with each other and really give each other a chance to explain your feelings and concerns. Take it step by step and try to compromise. Start by encouraging your wife during intimate times and maybe add in a tip so that she doesn't feel like she's not pleasing you, but at the same time, she can learn what works for you.

Also, a lot of women can be hypersensitive during sex, so my advice to you is take it SLOW, if you don't already. Women need the foreplay. Take your time with her and also learn how she wants things to go... She may like to be teased more in oral, whatever the case, listen to what she has to say too.

Hopefully this helps! Good luck with everything!

[red_sparrow]

you might want to smoke a bowl ;D pot is great. but it makes everything super-slow..

[smackie9]

Read up on G spot stimulation. Get those fingers in gear. There is also a video out in circulation for full body orgasm. [url=http://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=dabff4013995719db18e]Full Body Orgasm - Pornhub.com[/url] It works like a charm. She will love it. Don't forget to give her a nice massage before hand...not a 5 min one for for an hour. Once you hear her moans of pleasure that should be enough to get your mojo going. You can also add toys, role playing or watch a porn together. It's all fun.

Also another poster made a good point that you are treating your relationship like friends or roommates instead of a romantic couple. You both need to remove yourselves from all responsibilities, like kids, work and home, and go out on date nights where you both can reconnect as a couple again.

[Ryan Heitzman]

I don't know if sex is a chore. I'm a virgin.

[red_sparrow]

there are more important things than sex. my BF knows how to give me several orgasms, but i feel like the sex is just a way to get close and connect with him since he's so detached--emotionally--most of the time. it's just a way to be close to him, and i feel like THAT is wrong. people need to learn how to have conversations with each other, and we can usually not even do this.

[vertical_sky]

I can understand her jaw getting tired... what she might want to try is switching between her hands and her mouth. When her mouth gets tired, she should use her hands for a while, and even while using her mouth, keep her hands around as added stimulation. She should also experiment with different pressures... go from squeezing really tight to just a feather touch, with her tongue, with her hands, and placing sensation on different parts. Switching off between her hands and her mouth, and also her mouth and her vagina (switch when one part gets too tired/sensitive) will result in less taxation on her body.

You might also want to look into exploring kinks. Does your wife have any fantasies? Do you? How often do you discuss them/act upon them? You said you are extra patient going down on her... How often do you try mutual masturbation/oral?

Long story short is, I believe if sex drives are not too divergent, partners can work through it if both are willing to try new things.

[red_sparrow]

I can understand her jaw getting tired... what she might want to try is switching between her hands and her mouth. When her mouth gets tired, she should use her hands for a while, and even while using her mouth, keep her hands around as added stimulation. She should also experiment with different pressures... go from squeezing really tight to just a feather touch, with her tongue, with her hands, and placing sensation on different parts. Switching off between her hands and her mouth, and also her mouth and her vagina (switch when one part gets too tired/sensitive) will result in less taxation on her body.

You might also want to look into exploring kinks. Does your wife have any fantasies? Do you? How often do you discuss them/act upon them? You said you are extra patient going down on her... How often do you try mutual masturbation/oral?

Long story short is, I believe if sex drives are not too divergent, partners can work through it if both are willing to try new things.

ya ,to be honest.. if its just the sex you need to work on thats not a big deal! its worse when you are emotionally / intellectually not compatible.