URGent! Advice Needed!

[Cybog]

If working in the porn business is your "thing", I could send you in the direction of a field that would yeild you a substantial income without ever needing to leave your home and a very nice income. PM me if you want more information.

Either way, your whole relationship is a farce. This guy thought it was "cool" to be dating someone like you, and then realized the difficulty that comes along with someone in "the industry". He realized that he wasn't able to handle it. The "Cool factor" went away, and now he is making excuses for himself about his life.

I'm sorry that his mom died when he was 10. That was over 10 years ago. Get over it you pussy. Ok, his close friend killed himself over some stupid shit. Guess what - Life goes on. This guy is riding the fat check he gets and blaming life's problems on his own inability to cope with Life.

You need someone who is able to accept you for WHO YOU ARE and nothing different. If you decide to **** people for a living and I tell you it is ok, I CAN'T CHANGE MY MIND LATER. I got into this relationship knowing that it is what you did.

I understand that you think you are "in love" with this guy, but you aren't. You are in love with the concept of a relationship or being close to someone. But believe me sweety - No matter how many guys you bang or times you take your clothes off, that void will never be filled until you find someone who can truely accept you for who you really are.

My advice? Tell him that you enjoy stripping and that is what you want to do. You are unskilled and would like to earn money to go back to school and get an education. AND THEN DO JUST THAT. Don't strip for 3 years snorting your life away with white lines until you start turning tricks and wind up in a ditch somewhere 10 years from now.

He got into this relationship knowing what you did. Now he needs to pony up to that fact before you get kicked out of your apartment and this relationship goes south.

P.S. The "stuff" he was getting from someone was most likely drugs. Either uppers or pain killers would be my guess. Don't ask about them again, but pay attention to his mood swings, behaviour or attitude adjustments over the next few weeks.

[whaywardj]

Lilbaby -- The VERY FIRST thing you're going to have to do is get over this idea that you're helpless and that all is hopeless. No one can accomplish anything if they're feeling overwhelmed. Get help to do this from a counsellor at women's shelter.

I have a feeling you're not telling us the whole story.

[whaywardj]

If working in the porn business is your "thing", I could send you in the direction...

MISOMBRA ON WEBCAM! MISOMBRA ON WEBCAM! (common everybody!) MISOMBRA ON WEBCAM!

[Cybog]

What?! Where!?

[whaywardj]

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[LilBabyBat]

Obviously I don't have a family, or I would be with them wouldn't I? I'm 18.
I think you misunderstood what I was saying, because you say I cannot be a protitute forever, that was NEVER my intention. My intention was to prostitute so that I may study, after study I would be able to get a better job, without Prostitution i cannot afford to study, simple as that.

And my boy has no broblem with me being a stripper, that's what I was when we met, that's fine with him. It's just prostituting he has a problem with now. If I could make enough money stripping, I wouldn't have left to be a prostitute in the first place. I think you're right he should love me for who I and that is that. **** I love him no matter what work he does, I love him even though he seems to have no intention of looking for a job at all.

I'm just going to have to tell him straight, I'm not going to give up my life for him, if he really does love me, He'll be with me no matter what. *sigh* I guess I just didn't want to admit to myself that he wasn't worth it, because I didn't want to deal with the pain of losing him.

PS: he doesn't have any money for any drugs... I dont think it's that. But he's definately up to something

[Tone]

PM Cybog, you might be able to get into whatever he's talking about so you can go back to just stripping so your b/f will be okay with it.