Good news. The wife and i talked for a while. I scared the guy off, he wanted to be friends with her but didn't want to deal with a crazy husband. Call me what you will but he is gone. After me and her talked she saw that it bothered me and that it was not a good idea for the friend to crash at the house. She needs support while I am gone. She decided to move in with my folks until I get back so she has people (family) around her. Wish us luck, hope things will get back on track now. Thanks for the advice all!