Friend With Benefits?? Actual expectations?

[ransom_nite]

poor girly males.

I rep being a so called 'girly-male'.

[Jupiter Rising]

That was quite a response. Good to hear what others had to say. I think my question has been answered. The thing I was wondering about was addressed, which is basically if someone says that what she wants, what are the odds of ever going from that perspective to a serious relationship. Sounds like the odds are close to zero.

[Jupiter Rising]

For what it is worth, and beyond the scope of my original question, I have always believed that a true frienship, which includes caring for the other person, is the basis for establishing a LTR.
Sounds to me then like a Friend with benefits is probably not likely to be a true friend by my definition of frienship.

[Only-virgins]

You said that you are not a relationship type of person. So who the hell do you ****?

Oh nevermind...you're a virgin?

I'm not a virgin and I am not a relationship type. That doesn't mean I am not with girls if you catch my drift.

[lesa]

I'm being facetious .

I do catch your drift.

[Only-virgins]

I didn't mean to imply that the wife cheated. I meant that she had sex with the poolboy in her past.

Whats the difference? Sex is sex, no matter when and what the paper work said when it was done.

[lesa]

Whats the difference? Sex is sex, no matter when and what the paper work said when it was done.

It makes a huge difference. I am just clarifying that it was not cheating.

Dude relax.

[Only-virgins]

It makes a huge difference. I am just clarifying that it was not cheating.

Dude relax.

I am relaxed and it being cheating wasn't the point in the first place. It was that he has to do more work to get the same goal a simple pool boy got.

[Lite]

Look. Some people are able to detach sex from love and some aren't. For many people the act of having sex with someone they do not care about leaves them generally feeling empty inside.

A fwb situation is usually when you have two people in a very close and fairly intimate relationship. They might be former lovers, they might just be friends who have sexual needs and finds each other relatively safe as a person to fulfill that.

That's what FWB means to me. I think most people confuse FWB with Booty Call. Which is basically when someone calls you up at 1 am and says, "Hey, why don't you come over and bring some beer?" You show up, you ****, you leave. You don't sleep over (unless you pass out because you're too drunk), you don't keep a toothbrush there. You're there for the sex, and then you're gone. That's it, no strings attached. If you don't hear from the person for 2 months, it's no big deal.