Sister in Law

[ecojeanne]

ooooo indignant, you're gonna regret that! haha, these women have a bite!

[Indignant]

ooooo indignant, you're gonna regret that! haha, these women have a bite!

Eco, keyword is "women", and they can express themselves in a more feminine way without cussing people out.

[Mish]

I suppose we often try to skip towards giving advice and deeming what's appropriate and inappropriate without realizing first that some people really come here to vent and their feelings need to be acknowledged and them validated as a person. Touchy subject. I think we are all guilty of that at times, myself included.

[lesa]

Yikes, why is my name listed? I certainly do not need to be lectured about politeness. I am sure the other ladies do not either.

Ah women, lol.

My initial comment was on purpose for shock value. I knew that my post was not to acknowledge or validate feelings and I wasn't trying to. I did not say everything I was thinking. I never do lol.

As for the expressing myself in a feminine matter. I believe you know that I am trying to make a major point in how horrific this sounds so that the OP becomes less likely to act out on his feelings.

I want to help but am doing it in a different way. However, I don't want the OP to feel like it was a personal attack at him. I did not intend my comment to ever be like that.

As for the lady comment. I can assure you that I am all lady. Plus, I do not use profane or vulgar words outside this forum. This forum is to let out my masculine side . I want to hang out with the guys.

Oh, and I can bite sometimes, but that's a different subject.

[vashti]

I think harsh language is sometimes called for. It helps drive home the point that what this guy is heading for is completely unacceptable socially. I personally do not feel the slightest bit tempted to show compassion for a man wanting to mess around with his sister in law.

[Dasein]

Indi, Vashti and Lesa!!!!!

Attention please!!!!

When people come to this forum they are lost and looking for help, and guess what, you bash them instead!

Please be kind to the lost souls, I know for a fact that you can express yourself in a nicer, gentler and more civil way without hurting newbies!!!

Please!

So basically you think it is better to bash other forum members instead.

[Indignant]

So basically you think it is better to bash other forum members instead.

please be so kind as to point out where in my text i was actually bashing anyone.

[Connor 45]

I think harsh language is sometimes called for. It helps drive home the point that what this guy is heading for is completely unacceptable socially. I personally do not feel the slightest bit tempted to show compassion for a man wanting to mess around with his sister in law.

As i said i didn't know how i felt ? i wanted advice as to her behavior????????? as i didn't know if it was normal???? ,or that i was getting the vibes i was getting or whether i was seeing things that simply weren't there ? because at that moment i was unhappy with my marriage !
im not happy with myself at these thoughts believe me ! i want to lead a normal life
You can slag me off .....but at least im honest !

i simply dont know if its all in my mind? is it normal ????????

[ecojeanne]

You know what Connor; you are not the only man to feel like this after a baby is born. I think you may have feelings of abandonment. Her attention is on the newborn and when you indicate you want some passion and comfort from her like you used to I think she ignores you for the baby. These feelings you have are not unheard of at all. Also cheating after the birth of a child is also not unheard of. You may be feeling hurt that your wife is not only ignoring you but has become impatient with you also and therefore you feel the marriage has changed permanently. you're wrong, if you are patient enough you will find that her attitude will change if you make time to bond with the baby and offer her comfort nights where she doesn't have to deal with the children but gets to relax and enjoy being with herself.

It’s possibly why you have had these ideas about her sister...she is not stressed out and is friendly to you, you see her as the opposite of your wife and yet the same as your wife used to be I reckon. I don't think her sis will reciprocate. I think you really need to sit down some night with your wife and explain these feelings of abandonment and make a plan for your future happiness....and most importantly tell her you love her

[Dasein]

please be so kind as to point out where in my text i was actually bashing anyone.

I was referring to your posts in other threads. You make a lot of unnecessary inferences toward people...myself included.

I can't be bothered going and getting the quotes but you can easily look into your post history.

[Lipp]

Women...

[smartbabe]

Maybe you could talk to your wife and let her know what you feel?

[vashti]

is it normal ????????

Do you really need to ask this?


Really?

[Indignant]

this might sound silly, but in order to satisfy those feelings of lust, try watching a lot of porn and masturbating. at least this will not harm anyone and keep you in the family, and you will not have any regrets if you actually sleep with anyone else. If you do feel like cheating, try taking into an account that women are very selfish creatures who get easily attached and have overwhelming expectations. take into consideration that even if your sis in law seems like a very rational and stable person, once she gets attached the whole hell might get loose on you. there!

[the.martin]

amen, ecojeanne -

cheers