If you love me...Swallow!!

[Incognito]

I doubt it was a joke. I've heard of guys saying that to their gfs before and it is immature and manipulative. He just wants her to swallow plain and simple and figured that throwing the 'L' word into the equation would make her more willing to do it. He sounds like a jerk. He'll probably say "if you really love me you'll take it in the butt" in the near future. I'm only half joking. The bottom line OP is don't do anything that you aren't 100% comfortable with, and if your bf tries to guilt you into doing it then its time to find another bf.

[cmaree]

Its not a joke. And he is 24.... and OMG incognito your half joke is kinda the way things are heading at the moment.

Im happy with everythin else..kinda ( I mean he can be a bit jelous).

But he could just ask, or say what he likes... Not say 'If you love me' ... then do this!
I no its prob time to move on... but its hard to do!

[misombra]

if you love yourself you will let this little guy go.

[Incognito]

Its not a joke. And he is 24.... and OMG incognito your half joke is kinda the way things are heading at the moment.

Im happy with everythin else..kinda ( I mean he can be a bit jelous).

But he could just ask, or say what he likes... Not say 'If you love me' ... then do this!
I no its prob time to move on... but its hard to do!

Any guy who actually loves you will know to treat you with respect and show you that he loves you [without] the jealousy and manipulation. I guess I shouldn't have said that "it was a half joke" because it seemingly took away from my comment. Any guy who is willing to tell you to prove your love by doing something that you don't want to do DOESN'T LOVE YOU, and will try to manipulate you in the same way until you put a stop to it. You don't TELL someone to prove their love by doing anything, because then the person is doing [whatever] because of guilt, not love. Second, telling someone to prove their love by doing something they don't want to do ESPECIALLY something sexual is despicable.

Misombra is right, you need to dump this guy and find one who is more of a man. I hope you didn't let him take naked pictures of you because, given his seeming maturity level, he'll probably post them online in a petty and immature attempt at revenge.

[JT1920]

What is more shallow than emotionally manipulating someone into swallowing your bodily fluids?! Swallowing has NOTHING to do with intimacy. Real men don't pressure their women into doing things they don't want. That's like emotional rape...

Is that a joke? Some women are such hypocrites when it comes to swallowing. Think about it from the opposite perspective. If you had a boyfriend/husband who told you that the taste of your juices disgusted him, that just the thought of tasting you made him gag and he refused to perform oral sex on you unless you had dental dam covering your entire genital region so that he didn't have to taste your juices at all.... you would have no problem with that? You wouldn't feel hurt or a sense of rejection? When men go down on a women they're lapping up their juices the entire time, any woman who can't manage to endure the 10 seconds of cum in their mouth is selfish imo. Intimacy plays a huge factor.

Edit - Granted, your bf didn't go about it the best way if he simply stated it like your title indicates, explaining why it's important to him would have been a more sensible approach but yeah.

[MaidenMinx]

Is that a joke? Some women are such hypocrites when it comes to swallowing. Think about it from the opposite perspective. If you had a boyfriend/husband who told you that the taste of your juices disgusted him, that just the thought of tasting you made him gag and he refused to perform oral sex on you unless you had dental dam covering your entire genital region so that he didn't have to taste your juices at all.... you would have no problem with that? You wouldn't feel hurt or a sense of rejection? When men go down on a women they're lapping up their juices the entire time, any woman who can't manage to endure the 10 seconds of cum in their mouth is selfish imo. Intimacy plays a huge factor.

Edit - Granted, your bf didn't go about it the best way if he simply stated it like your title indicates, explaining why it's important to him would have been a more sensible approach but yeah.

Honestly if a guy had a problem with going down, I wouldn't have a problem with that. Oral isn't the be all and end all.

If a chick gave you a blow job and held it in her mouth and kissed you would you be disgusted? I'm going to guess your answer would be yes, simply because most guys are. If a guy isn't willing to at least taste his own semen he has no right to expect his woman to swallow.

OP, here's a tip for you. Next time you go down on your guy (I hope by now you have broken up with him), stop as he is about to cum and finish him off by hand. That way you don't have to spit.

[Ric]

I agree with JT, partially. Swallowing can be intimate to some. But, that's no reason to use that bullshit excuse if you'll love me you'll...

If this guy meant it he is a manipulative bastard and should be dumped instantly.

If a chick gave you a blow job and held it in her mouth and kissed you would you be disgusted? I'm going to guess your answer would be yes, simply because most guys are. If a guy isn't willing to at least taste his own semen he has no right to expect his woman to swallow.

I also agree with this. Every guy wanting their girlfriend to do something she might not like should at the very least be willing to try it themselves as well.

[legality]

i think your bf watches too much porn to expect you to swallow it and in return love him also! tell him that he should also swallow it with you to prove he is ready to face the same situation as yours! hahaha

[Incognito]

^^^ Ick, that made me gag...

[Borealis]

You could do whatever you want with it. But, I'd dump you in a heartbeat. You're looking for trouble when your fighting for someone who isn't manipulative. That's like going to war to not lose.

[smackie9]

If he expects you to swallow, expect him to give you a deep kiss afterwards.

[Illusional]

Hey,

The first 2 times I gave my bf oral sex, I spat it out... Then he told me 'If you really loved me you would swallow'. I initially didn't have a problem with swallowing, but it was only the 2nd time so I thought I would work my way up to it.

His statement has made me think.... and Im just not sure, coz it made me feel like I have to ?!?
My thoughts are:

1) Is this a sign that he has some 'controlling' issues.
2) It dosn'e mean you dont love him!!... Right?

Just dont wanna end up with a controlloing manipulative bf!!

hahaha.... next time your bf asks you this reply to him, "if you love me, then eat me when i'm having my period"

honestly kids don't think of the other's feelings, and this is a perfect way to turn the tables on him. and yes, i have eating the blood before...


raverboy

[cathy22]

"If you love me you would-", This is something a middle schooler would say.

[scott green]

hahaha.... next time your bf asks you this reply to him, "if you love me, then eat me when i'm having my period"

honestly kids don't think of the other's feelings, and this is a perfect way to turn the tables on him. and yes, i have eating the blood before...


raverboy

Wow! Did you just compare drinking period blood to swallowing your partners semen? That sounds pretty sexist. I bet her partner would go down on her anytime she asked him, no complaints, and unlike with giving oral to guys a guy can taste her fish batter as soon as he sticks his Tongue in her twat! The LEAST she can do it try it a few times if she really loves him, which obviously she doesn't. The girl ONLY tastes a guy right at the end when he climaxes, and even then it's over in a minute, unlike a guy who has to suck and like his gf's sweaty hairy clam for about half an hour or whatever. Way to go giving this girl advice! It should be the guy dumping HER for being so fridged and repressed and disgusted by something perfectly natural as his semen

[scott green]

I mean, I'd TOTALLY understand girls having a problem if a guy started ejaculating the second you put his cock in your mouth, and kept shooting his cum in your mouth for 15 minutes straight until he orgasmed. That's how long it sometimes takes you girls to climax while us guys are busy sucking on your fishy tunnel the whole time, and swallowing your juices. But ONLY ONE MINUTE of sucking while we cum? geeze! Get some perspective! If you love the guy you should at least try to please him, not be too busy and selfish just thinking of your own pleasure