Waiting for love? How long is too long?

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Thanks Lite..see I knew it..just a bunch of softees at heart!! LOL

Hey nothing is more sexy than a confident man who is able to open up for just a bit and show his soft side...sigh...

when my guy does..i am like butter...

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Thanks Lite..see I knew it..just a bunch of softees at heart!! LOL

Hey nothing is more sexy than a confident man who is able to open up for just a bit and show his soft side...sigh...

when my guy does..i am like butter...

You're a rare woman. There are a lot of woman who run for the hills the moment the man acts insecure.

We're not so much softees at heart, just very insecure and raised in a fashion that doesn't teach us to express this.

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Aww thanks Lite!
Your making me all weepy inside...

Is it really that hard for you men to express true feelings verbally?

In my heart this guy loves me, in actions everyday... but I am yearning to hear it out loud and I think it is because he has waited so long I know when it does come it will be the real deal...

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Aww thanks Lite!
Your making me all weepy inside...

Is it really that hard for you men to express true feelings verbally?

In my heart this guy loves me, in actions everyday... but I am yearning to hear it out loud and I think it is because he has waited so long I know when it does come it will be the real deal...

Depends upon the guy, but anything involving empathy, personal insecurities, and self worth are generally difficult to talk about. Most men are raised with the belief that it is "weak" to have the feelings, let alone express them. It leads to a lot of frustration and problems with venting stress gradually in a lot of men. There's a reason we're more prone to heart attacks and it isn't all biological. We generally internalize stress more.

One should always understand that they need to accept love as it is shown to them, not as they want it to be shown. You cannot dictate how another conveys their feelings towards you. Only whether or not you're in a relationship w/ them.

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One should always understand that they need to accept love as it is shown to them, not as they want it to be shown. You cannot dictate how another conveys their feelings towards you. Only whether or not you're in a relationship w/ them.[/QUOTE]

This has been the hardest thing for me to learn and understand in relationships. That we are two different people with differents ideals as to was perfect is... I have really tried to stop and put myself in his shoes and get a percpective on what he is dealing with and how it can affects him and myself. It is a great tool and if used can prevent sooo much drama and avoid the feeling of entitlement. I tell him what would please me and make me happy but not demand it. I know that I am responsible for my own happiness and no man can "complete" me as a person... I just want to share myself with that one someone...

I leave myself open to love and all its possibilities and know that to allow it to happen on its own it can trully be great!!