Polite Decline

[Indignant]

Yes, pretty much. Just like everyone else. I don't really like to hang out with people I despise.

I also hang out with girls that I'm not attracted to who don't want anything from me and who have proven to be good friends.

you never mentioned despising her.

[Yggdrasil]

How about: "You deserve a guy way better than me. I’m a piece of sh*t. Seriously."

[Indignant]

well, if you find that there's something wrong with girls who admire you or enjoy your company, then... ygg is right. be honest with them. if you won't give people a chance to be your friend you'll never know if they would make a great companion.

[Rollerderby]

Like I said, scare 'em off. Make them be glad to be rid of you, not rejected by a hottie. Plus it's fun :-)

[Indignant]

yeah, but people cling to him because he comes off as a pleasant guy, they don't expect him to be the one to say, sorry you are not my type,

[Rollerderby]

Getting rejected by the nice sweet ones are the worst. Sometimes I wish they almost were assholes so I wouldn't feel like I was missing out on a catch.

[Yggdrasil]

You know, I am not to sure I would use that line I posted.

Girls are sorta attracted/challenged by what they can't have.

It may make him worth "fighting" for.

[Mish]

well, if you find that there's something wrong with girls who admire you or enjoy your company, then... ygg is right. be honest with them. if you won't give people a chance to be your friend you'll never know if they would make a great companion.

I've tried companionship in the past, it doesn't work. I don't know about you but I personally see a sadistic intent in stringing someone along and leading on someone who is attracted to you, but you are not to them. If they are attracted to you and you are not to them you have a moral obligation to end it right there and then and not torture them with "you can see me as friend only" bs. I'm not going to torture her.

[tooxshort]

Can't you just hang out with her and play dumb? And then if she tries to make a move, just be like, "Ummm, what're you doing, you freak?!"

But seriously, sometimes our intuition is all messed up and we think too much into people. I don't think it's necessary to reject her before she makes a solid move. Just play it like a typical dumb male. Or how about hanging with mutual friends to avoid the "Me and Mish did this together" stories?

[lovesjoyajm]

Actually, always asking if you can bring a friend is a good tactic.

[ecojeanne]

be overly enthusiastic, like everything is soooooo wonderful, the day, the sunshine, the flowers, life the sea, my life, your life, oooh oooh look how purty thos flowers are ouh ouh i lurve the way that sound of wind makes me think of this poem

you are so beautiful to meeeeee
when i see you i flutter to the kneeeeeees

blah blah until she thinks wtf did i just get into

[Yggdrasil]

be overly enthusiastic, ...
blah blah until she thinks wtf did i just get into

I like that. Smother her... make her fight for air... good one.

[Charlie Boy II]

I'd just be blunt. I got into a helluva mess with a girl at work over something similar. Man, she was thick headed though.

[Mish]

I don't understand why play dumb and pretend when I know exactly what her intentions are? It seems to me ending it now in the early stages will save a lot of problems which will come if I end in the later stages which I would need to do anyway if I accept her invitation. If I ask someone out I'd prefer them to be blunt with me if they are not attracted to me and not tell me a couple of months later. I'd question their intentions if they did that, to me it would look like they lead me on just so I could stroke their ego.

[tooxshort]

Well, you originally said you didn't want her to feel rejected and being blunt would do that. And you know what your intentions are ... I mean, the obvious thing to do would to be blunt of course, but I thought you were looking for an alternate route.