hr, how do you feel about him having sex with other girls and then coming over to have sex with you and then leaving to go have more sex with other girls?
you're setting yourself up for hurt and humiliation.
and of course he's being really nice to you, how else would he keep you around?
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13-09-06, 09:32 PM #16
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This is your own fault for not being honest about what it is YOU want. This guy was clear with you. You lied to yourself by saying that you were fine with the FWB arrangement. The guy may be a nice guy, but he IS using you, and he doesn't share your relationship goals/wishes. It's time to save your dignity and move on.
Relax... I'll need some information first. Just the basic facts - can you show me where it hurts?
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14-09-06, 12:59 AM #18
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thanks guys, this reall helped. especially prodigal.
i think i understand myself better now..i will be seeing him today at school. and i wil post you guys what happens when i get home today.
thanks again!
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im an office aide this class (right now) and he always comes in the office...(he is here right now) so wish me luck.
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14-09-06, 04:11 AM #20
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I wish you clarity and discernment. You get lucky often enough.
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This thing reminds me of "When Harry Met Sally" (great movie) where Billy Crystal says men and women can never be friends without the sex thing getting in the way.
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Then I am even more rare than. If he was not like this, then why does he keep on wanting "friends with benfits" then?.
Originally Posted by HopelssRomantic
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alright guys..i talked to him today..
you ready?
here it does...
among a bunch of words
he says that he doesnt want to date right now...because he is moving soon (germany for school)
he says that he likes me not only sexually.
i said...so you wanna gave sex with me and everyone else
and he said that its not that he wants to with everyone...hes only done it with 4...
last time he told me how many times it was...it was 4 too..so its someone hes already had sex with.
i said that is wasnt that im looking for a relationship, i just want you to like me more than sexually.
then i asked him..do you like me more than a friend...
"i care for you"
but as a friend..or as more than a friend?
as a really really really good friend..i really dont know enough about you
you like and care about me. but you dont want to date me. but you want to have sex with me. but you want to have sex with other people too. do i have that right?
yes, but sex isnt a neccessity. i just dont see it as a very big deal. i have very controversial veiws on things.
ok...where do we go from here?
however you want. i wont force you to do anything, and i will respect your decision.
then i went on about how i couldnt do it like that..and id rather be his friend...ect.
and he understood.
any comments?
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14-09-06, 09:39 AM #24
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Done and done, close this thread.
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14-09-06, 09:43 AM #25
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it's better than being some ho he's sleeping with, i think.
newsflash: you'll never change him, or anybody else for that matter. he doesn't want to get with you, he only wants to have sex with you.
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Beautiful.
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14-09-06, 11:36 AM #27
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Originally Posted by HopelssRomantic
This means no.
Originally Posted by HopelssRomantic
No he doesn't. Most guys would like to have a f*ck buddy with no other responsibility. He sounds rather ordinary, actually.
Lose him. You don't want the same things out of this relationship, and you know it. Originally Posted by HopelssRomantic
Relax... I'll need some information first. Just the basic facts - can you show me where it hurts?
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ahh nice going HR, bravo.
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Oh, honey, get out now while it's still up to you. If you don't, you'll be in for a world of hurt.
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I think she already is. Originally Posted by Gigabitch
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