Did you even read the rest of his post?
To answer your question - if anything, it's being positive and hopeful to continue visiting this forum despite all of the depressingly similar questions some of the people that come here ask. It means we still believe we can help at least someone, and that it's worth to try and help those that are willing to listen.
Last edited by searock; 05-06-13 at 08:53 AM.
Uhm....what?Originally Posted by homefry
Cynical means you believe people are motivated by self interest and you doubt the integrity of people as a whole, negative means you tend to only see the bad side of things. What set of circumstances exists that makes it to where posting on a forum gives someone these attributes?
nope, not lonely at all. I have lots of company here.
As you said, there are plenty stubborn and cynical people posting. You may not be catering to their stubborn needs in saying what they wish to hear, which they see as negative advice, but simply reading the posts and trying to persuade someone with those characteristics is cynical in and of itself, since you doubt they will even take your advice. They in turn get frustrated and perhaps backlash. Therefore, making the whole experience negative. Nevertheless, there are those few who are open to any advice and may get a positive experience.
Stev,
Never too rough, I just have lots of other stuff to do. I come and go
I've looked around but I've not been able to access the butterfly farts, fairy dust advice giving site. I think they've purposely hidden it from moi. :o)
“The willingness to accept responsibility for one’s own life is the source from which self-respect springs.” ~Joan Didion
dont get offended or frustrated by strangers on a forum OP. its silly to let it get to you. we are asked for our personal opinion and thats what you get so a lot of it is biased. thats the way it is. if you want unbiased advice see a shrink but even they are secretly judging you. its just human nature
Sorry but I can't say I've ever actually seen this happen, and I can't imagine any of the regulars here would say anything different. Even those of us who are prone to giving "negative" advice at times will give posters the benefit of the doubt at first with only a minority of exceptions. Nobody just assumes that a new poster won't take anyone's advice. First they show that they won't listen to anything that doesn't pander to what they want to hear, THEN everyone's tone changes.
I think the main point is that it is an "advice" forum not an "answer" forum. Like any advice, even in the real world, understand the source, but the main advantage is you get other points of a view on a topic hopefully with some past experience. However, all you can do is educate yourself as much as you can so that YOU make the most educated decision possible. One problem, we are talking about "love" something so complicated and abstract that no one can ever be right or wrong.
Crazy, it has been explained to you repeatedly that you are emotionally cheating. Your refusal to comprehend that fact is part of your problem. But keep at it, and have fun when you end up in divorce court.
Good decisions come from experience. Experience comes from bad decisions.