I think there's a miscomm here. I wasn't threatened. It's just my preference not to hear.
Let me provide a metaphor so you could see where I am coming from.
Couples watches porn sometimes together.
Some thinks they do not want to indulge into watching another person's body. Hence they don't and if forced to watch, they get offensive because it becomes their own standard and requirement being broken.
For me, it is just my preference of not listening. I am a buddhist before I was a Christian. I know everything that her mum tells me, not a single one I don't. My dad operates a semi temple when I was young. To listen to all these all over again as though I don't know, irritates me...and it is just my personal preference not to hear.
I believe personal preference has no limitations nor does it need justification. If I don't like to drink coke, then I just don't like to drink coke. You can't say, everyone drinks coke...what's wrong with drinking coke. I just don't want to. Once you force, it becomes offensive. I was forced to listen, because I forewarn her not to involve her mother.
I am a chinese, and we have to shut up when the elderly speaks and just nods, which pisses me even more, because I have to nod to something I don't agree.
I hope you get where I am coming from here. It''s just a personal preference matter. If I have not inform prior, then it's my fault. But if I had, yet the other party knows it would piss me, yet continues to do it, don't you think they have to bear the consequences of upsetting me?