I'm sorry you are experiencing such a rocky start to your marriage. Obviously you know more about the man that you married than any of us, and yourself as well, but I think two of the biggest flaws that I read are:
Originally Posted by ashangelDating a guy with no prior experience? Not a big deal. Marrying a guy with no prior experience? Big fat wrong deal. I often hear about younger women being in relationships that are woefully unhealthy (my brother and his girlfriend/fiancee for instance), and usually the guy is acting like such a dick because they don't realize how real relationships work yet because of lack of experience. I told my brother's fiancee this and also told her that it would fail. Their relationship ended after he became grossly disrespectful to her and cheated on her. My brother, and guys like him, won't be able to have a healthy relationship until they realize the do's and don't of relationships. Sadly it will take a bunch of failed relationships and possibly broken hearts before they reach that point.Originally Posted by ashangel
Speaking further on your husband's point of view... I'm not surprised at all that he finds your past sexual escapades "whorish". I ONLY say that because many unexperienced males view a woman who has already had sex as "damaged goods". Even I had this warped and woefully unhealthy view when I was younger. I, and most males, realize that it thoroughly unrealistic and unfair by our mid teenage years. Unfortunately because of your husbands lack of experience he is still stuck at a place that almost every other male has moved on from. With no relationship experience it is no wonder that he is jealous of your past. That is as much his fault as it is yours because you knew about this early on.
The highlighted portion is a huge "no-no" for many reasons. You should NEVER force a relationship to work by overlooking important issues, putting someone up on a pedestal, and minimizing your own importance. NEVER. Reading your quote it is almost as if you were saying "I know this guy has some major issues, but dammit I'm tired of being alone and broken hearted. I'm going to make this work however I can". The problem is that you were successful, and now you're here.