A little... depressing...

[lesa]

Hi, you know what she knows she has your heart! Why continue to give her that much power? Start today by truly living up to your word of letting go. And letting go means there is no need to return anything...MOVE forward and let what is coming your way take over. Let her GO! There is surely someone better out there.

That's what I (unfortunately) had to do...let go of everything. It's the start to healing and one of the hardest things I had to do because we shared too many items. I felt like I had to go to court to get most of my items. We both let go of our items. I'm okay with it now as I needed to start all over from scratch.

[Cain]

I don't know if she'll want to get back together some time in the future, but I won't turn it away as long as I'm still single depending on the circumstances. I do know that if we do get back together, counseling has to happen.

[michzel creativ]

There are things in life that we cant explain, move on and explore.
Make yourself busy, do the things that you haven't been through. Time will come she will return to you after all.

[1averagejoe]

I personally wouldn't go see her. I found going over to my ex's for the last time although made it easier at first, eventually made it harder. Letting go of her is so hard, but you got to stay strong. Just ship her stuff out to her if she really wants the stuff back. If it's big stuff tell her you have it and she can come pick it up.

If you say you're going to move on, start now. It's like saying you're going to go workout tomorrow, then the next day, and the following day. Start now. Going over there to visit her is only going to hurt you more. At least for me it did, I'll admit the moment I left her house I cried so hard. It's hard and I know it's difficult to just step away like nothing ever happened.

She seems to have emotional problems that she needs to learn to deal with. And from what I've been reading in your previous threads she only seems to be bringing you down. You need to let yourself heal, get out there and have fun. You're still young.

[Cain]

Regardless of what I do, I'm still going to want to be with her.

I've already decided that I'm not going to go visit her simply because if I want her back, I'm going to need to do this the right way. If she called me and told me she wanted to see me this weekend, I'd be over there. I'm not simply because I want to go with no contact for a while and see what happens.

She's told me that she won't be out of my life completely. That we just need to take some time and then we can try to be friends. I'll live my life and as long as I'm available, I'm going to work on this. If we're friends... fine. But I'm going to show her the guy that she fell in love with.

Who knows... maybe she really did need this break up to get herself together. Maybe she needs to get into a different relationship to realize that what we had wasn't bad. She doesn't have experience with healthy relationships except for ours so she doesn't really know what to base it on.

[theguy]

Cain,

I just thought i'd let you know this post of yours really helped me. you may not realize it but my situation was almost identical to this, it came out of nowhere, she told me all the time that she wanted to be with me forever, we talked marriage, we talked kids... then suddenly out of nowhere it was over.

and like you said there was no "were over forever" it was the exact same thing "i see us together again in the future" needs time, etc, etc. Well the thing that helped me, i took all of her stuff back alright shoved it into her arms and she told me to keep it because she gave these to me. I told her "i dont want them" and left, i deleted her name out of my phone, and removed anything that reminded me of her...

2 months since we broke up, 1.5 weeks since I did that.. and? life still sucks but it sucks less... and she keeps calling me 5 or 6 times in a row but i dont answer a damn one of them, i dont read the texts i just delete them. after all this time she knows me to well and even with nothing more than the words in a text message can grab a tight hold on my balls once again.

perhaps this christmas we will run into each other since were from the same town, and maybe we can start anew, i dont know, anyway its nice to know that life doesnt just suck for me