Masturbation.

[Love'sReject]

In the shower? Good lord, no.

[Wakeup]

i don't think masturbation is the problem so much (although with some it is) ... most young women get bent out of shape because they wank to porn.

[Love'sReject]

It's funny when probably half the broads who complain are frigid and hold out for long periods of time.

[Wakeup]

I'm thinking the ones that are frigid and hold out for long periods of time are glad their OH is wanking because then they're not "pestering" them. It's the insecure frigid and holder outters that don't want them wanking with or without porn while they hold out.

[michelle23]

Its got nothing to do with insecurity.

Porn creates huge issues in many relationships-and older men can be much worse than young men. Many men become addicted to porn and literally cannot function sexually without it. Like any addiction-it has huge consequences.

It also increases the chances of men objectifying women and seeing them purely as toys. It can lead to sex addiction, prostitutes, fetishes, violence and even rape.

Not to mention the increasing number of sex offenders and child molestors in the world.

When men spend half their life watching porn before they meet a woman-they dont have a clue what to do with her.

It is also a good way to crush your partners self esteem by refusing to go to bed with her each night as youd prefer to sit there playing with yourself.

Porn normally leads to lots of women being put off sex. Not women refusing sex leads to porn.

[michelle23]

And i do think men who watch porn regularly while in a relationship dont find their partner attractive.

[HeartIsAching]

And i do think men who watch porn regularly while in a relationship dont find their partner attractive.

There you go making ridiculous blanket statements again.

[Wakeup]

Well, aside from your pre-concieved ideas and implication that ALL porn leads to the things you post about above, We, (at least I) are not talking about porn addiction. I think Smackie requested we don't go there. I'm talking in general and girls that get all bent out of shape because their guy looks at Hustler or photos of other women from the internet who have bigger boobs then they do... These girls resent their guy getting off to anything but them. Some even freak if he fantasizes about other woment while wanking... that is a symptom of insecurity, jealousy (which stems for being insecure) or control issues IMO.

[michelle23]

I didnt say ALL porn leads to those things. I am simple pointing out the negative aspects of porn. And all the things it can and does lead too. Not always but a lot of the time.

As for my "blanket statements" if you have a gorgeous girl with a high sex drive whos more than willing to have regular sex-whos open to new ideas etc-why would you feel the need to watch porn on a regular basis?

[Wakeup]

Your post speaks for itself. So i'm not going to argue.

We're not talking about porn addiction or what watching porn leads to... we're talking about girls who get all freaked out (odds are you're one of them by your recent posts) because their guy looks at other women during his private time which ocassionaly includes video porn.

[Wakeup]

As for my "blanket statements" if you have a gorgeous girl with a high sex drive whos more than willing to have regular sex-whos open to new ideas etc-why would you feel the need to watch porn on a regular basis?

You said you're okay with your guy wanking in the shower.. Using your arguement.. if he's got a beautiful women he can have sex with anytime/anyway, then why wank in the shower?

I dont mean to piss you off but It's going to happen again, I fear.

[michelle23]

I already said i dont care if he wanks or not. Im not one of those women who gets all paranoid. Fantasies are normal. Everyone has fantasies. I didnt say anything about me here so i dont no what ur on about.

You like throwing around insults dont you wakeup and your good at it too.

Im giving my opinion here like everyone else and my opinion is porn is unhealthy in a lot of cases.

People presume that ALL men watch it but thats not true

[michelle23]

And u could flip it. Lots of men do not like the thought of their girl fantasizing about a man with a 12" dick.

All humans are jealous and possessive of their partner to certain extent. Its human nature.

Girlfriend sitting in a bar-another man tries to kiss her-bf scares him off...
And vice versa.

And i already answered ur question. Masturbation is a quick release for most people. If your watching a two hour porn film 5 nights a week. thats not a quick release-thats an obsession.

[VincenzoG91]

People presume that ALL men watch it but thats not true

It's at least 99%, princess. I can tell from your posts that you have absolutely no idea how much men think about sex. It's a lot. Really a lot. Have you ever noticed that there is an awful lot of porn on the internet? Guess why. And before the internet went mainstream, there was already a lot of porn. In the old days, 25% of video store rentals were porn. And before that, magazines like Playboy and Penthouse sold really well.

Is porn unhealthy? With men thinking about sex all the time, where are they going to get it? From their wives and girlfriends? Yeah, sometimes. But most women aren't up for sex every damn day, and even if they were, there are several days each month where it's less likely to happen anyway, if either person is squeamish. So porn smooths out that significant imbalance between supply and demand.

[HeartIsAching]

I didnt say ALL porn leads to those things. I am simple pointing out the negative aspects of porn. And all the things it can and does lead too. Not always but a lot of the time.

As for my "blanket statements" if you have a gorgeous girl with a high sex drive whos more than willing to have regular sex-whos open to new ideas etc-why would you feel the need to watch porn on a regular basis?

I do have a beautiful, sexy wife with a high sex drive. I still watch porn. Doesn't mean I don't think my wife is attractive... because I do. We have a very active sex life, too.