Originally Posted by
Nonchalant-Anon
Hey guys/girls,
I'm realistic. I know that size matters, in general, for the part of actual intercourse, but there has to be things that can make up for my short comings, right? I'm quite open minded about sex and I'd be quite adventurous too (except anal) . I'm about 4 1/2 and on a very "good" day, I've been 5 1/2.
I don't want a bunch of comments saying "Be happy with what you have" or "If she loves you, she shouldn't care about the size of your cock" etc. I'm not bitter or anything about my size, I'm actually perfectly okay with it, I just want some things to make up for it. So, what other things, effective things, can I do to make sex more enjoyable for her and myself?
Thanks peeps.
-Anon
Average vaginal depth: 4.5 inches
% of women I've slept with that like having their cervix hammered for an extended period of time? 33%
Generally women are more concerned with girth than depth as they like to be able to clamp their muscles down.
90% of sex is in your head. Learn techniques, positions, and most of all be confident. Penis size isn't everything to most women, and frankly if a woman is judging you for your penis size... Something that you cannot control as it is simply genetic... You probably don't want to be sleeping w/ her or dating her anyway.
I know all of this because at one point I thought I was below average, inadequate etc. My first wife slept w/ me a total of 5 times in the 2 years we were married. This includes the wedding night, and honeymoon. Really it was her issue, not mine...
Anyway, she's gone, and all of the work I put into being a god in bed to make up for my self-perceived "shortcoming" basically has left any woman I've slept w/ since then worshiping me. It's really all in your head, and all in her head, and you need to figure out how to simply get inside her head and make her addicted to you. Some people swear by oral sex, some swear by positions, some swear by stamina... Frankly, every woman is different. There's no one-size fits all penis size, or technique, or position that ensures you're going to please her. The best you can do is learn to read her reactions, and adjust as you go.
Best advice I can give you? Be confident, pick up a copy of the ultimate guide to cunnilingus (So that you understand female physiology and what you are doing, and how it affects her...frankly the tips in the book weren't all that great.), and if you're really looking to develop the headspace to dominate a woman in bed, pick up a copy of The New Topping Book. The truth is, many women spend so much energy running their life, and your life for you, that they don't really want to run what goes on in bed too. The truth is, most men actually suck in bed. If you put forth even a half-assed effort into being good in bed, you'll develop a cult following.
"Well, then," the Cat went on, "you see a dog growls when it's angry, and wags its tail when it's pleased. Now I growl when I'm pleased, and wag my tail when I'm angry. Therefore I'm mad."