is my female friend being an idiot, or am i?

[anachronistic]

One thing I've noticed is when "attraction" between friends is noticed by one party or the other the friendship becomes a bit more distant if its not mutual.

Could you give an example about what you mean? I am not entirely sure what you mean.

[Mish]

Could you give an example about what you mean? I am not entirely sure what you mean.

Ussually the way it goes. The guy develops interest in the friend who happens to be a girl, becomes attracted on some level. Girl's intuition ussually picks that up (the subtle signs of interest guys have trouble hiding). If the guy is in the "friend's only" teritory she will want to make sure the boundary is not crossed. Ussually the automatic response is distance, until the guy looses interest. Once the interest is lost and she's not picking up those signals any more she will continue with the friendship.

It makes sense. if one of my friend-girls showed interest in me, but I wasn't interested in her I would probably do the same. Distance myself from her until her feelings fade. It's the easiest thing to do really.