Originally Posted by
Lite
Then why are you acting shocked?
Why would you want him to stop you... He was cheating on you, and you caught him. Why don't you respect yourself more than to want him to beg for you to take him back?
He can live without you, anyone who tells you that they can't is either codependent or so mentally retarded they can't tie their own shoe. It's easy to get caught up in the rush of emotion surrounding a relationship. It's easy to say things in a moment that brings you closer to someone, even if it isn't quite the truth. And, honestly it's really not easy being a guy. I don't think a lot of people, regardless of sex, realize exactly how difficult our lives really are. Obviously we have the (waning) privilege of the dominant sex, and a few other things going for us, but Well...
Women tell us they want us to be sensitive, then they dump you because they lost respect for you the moment you were weak. Women communicate on a completely different level than men do, yet they don't understand that men don't communicate in that way. This frustrates both sexes immensely. As for the cheating part? There could be any number of reasons why he'd do it. Sometimes it just happens, you develop an emotional connection and you're just simply too personally weak to break it off. Sometimes you're just a dirtbag that doesn't respect your significant other. Or, maybe he just can't keep his penis in his pants. I cheated on my first wife because the only two decisions I could understand in my depression over the state of our relationship was that I could either have an affair, or I could kill myself. The idea that I could divorce someone was alien to me. Suicide was a better choice than divorce to me.
Now I'm married again, and it's an amazing relationship.
Life is hard, it has a lot of painful and difficult choices in it that you have to make. Many of us avoid those choices out of fear, indecision, and avoidance of pain. Yet, I can tell you for a fact that 90% of my relationship issues all stem from not making a hard choice when I needed to, and in the end I just made it all worse by not doing what I needed to because it was painful. I was afraid of emotional pain.
And, it is that easy to walk away from him. It's not that easy to get over the feelings of anger and betrayal, but leaving him is as simple as making the choice and living with it. Everything else is simply the healing process. Then you'll find someone else, and hopefully you'll have learned enough to pick a better SO the next time around.