A question on love

[Only-virgins]

This is a good question, you know?

The priest of my parish used to say:
"Love is something God gives us to share with the rest of the world."

Mum used to say:
"To love is to do what is best for the other person, even if that bugs/annoys/fcuks you"

Personally, I like the second one most.

Those sound like good morals and not love. Always put others first.

[Citycat]

I wasn't able to endure a relationship in which the guy tried to please me all the time and let me manipulate him however I wanted to. I prefer someone with more character.

[Tedel]

Those sound like good morals and not love. Always put others first.

Well, you don't love by damaging you beloved do you? True love is respectful of the other person's freedoms... or moral, if you want to use that word.

[bluesummer]

A person's definition of love changes over time. When I met my first bf at 17, I was instantly smitten with him. To me, everything he said and did was perfect and wonderful. He could do no wrong, and if he did, it was always forgiven, no matter what. I wrote his name with mine in hearts on everything. I was so 'in love' I didn't even realize for four years that I was unhappy.

My second 'love', my ex-husband, I fell for him because he made my life exciting. He did silly old-fashioned things like buy me flowers. I figured this was love. I still figured he loved me when he cheated on me, because he'd tell me he loved me and that he couldn't live without me. I figured a man that could tell me that really loved me a lot.

Now, I've met a man that I didn't fall for right away. I took my time and got to know him and came to love him slowly. He treats me with respect, he tells me he loves me everyday, and he SHOWS it, even if in small ways. We do things for each other because we like to. I wasn't hit by a lightning bolt of love for him or anything like that, but I know I love him.....and the thought of him brings a smile to my face. This is the best love I have known, the most peaceful kind.

It took me ten years of relationships to finally find what real 'love' is to me. I think we can all feel love, but the way love feels changes. It's not the same as an older person as it is as a teenger.

[Aegis]

...until such time as she adds The Next Paragraph...

:p

[bluesummer]

No, I don't think that's likely, unless something bad happens to him.

But thanks for the optimism.

[Aegis]

It occurred to me it might be taken more negatively than jokingly, but I expect you caught it for the friendly poking-fun that it was supposed to be. If not, I apologize.

[shh!]

I'm still waiting to see if my definition of love evolves. I expect it will at some point.

[bluesummer]

I expect it to continually evolve. I don't know if the evolution is really apparent to us right away.

I really want to know what love feels like after you've been married for forty+ years.

[shh!]

I'm guessing like an old pair of shoes that don't hurt your feet.

[Only-virgins]

A person's definition of love changes over time.

Not for me, it has always been the same thus far.

[nbfsb]

its love when you're willing to risk everthing just to be with him/her. =)

[Gribble]

its love when you're willing to risk everthing just to be with him/her. =)

Actually that's stupidity, selfishness and immaturity.

[Lipp]

It's 42, ain't it?

42 is a nice number that you can take home and introduce to your family

-Douglas Adams, responding to the "Why 42?" at Brown University

I think we're onto something here...

[nbfsb]

Actually that's stupidity, selfishness and immaturity.

love is sacrifice..
lts now or never. lts her/him or other things.