My GF doesnt like being around my friends

[lamarthe]

That's really constructive feedback Gen Mac! How is that going to resolve his issues? So what you are saying basically is: "mate, too late - there is nothing you can do and eventually she will break your heart too!"

[anachronistic]

Welcome to the forum olioli

From your story that I skimmed through, I can tell you that I have been in similar situations before.

At any time if you are to choose between the girl and your best friend, choose the friend. This is the best advice I can give you.

[Gribble]

Bros before hos.

Granted I never take that advice myself.

[anachronistic]

Bros before hos.

Granted I never take that advice myself.

Neither do I, but when the relationship is over, I often wish that I had talked to all my friends that I lost.

[vashti]

Hmm - I am not sure she will appreciate such an un-romantic
approach (I mean Vashti's suggestion). I wouldn't, actually it would probably upset me. But that's me.

I don't doubt she would be upset - I just think it is appropriate (and necessary) for him to draw some firm boundaries because she is out of control. Whether or not she likes that she has driven him to this point is really *her* problem, IMO.

Anyway, I doubt he will listen. His friends already tell him he is soft (didn't he say that?), which I interpret to mean he has a problem with setting boundaries.

[youreit]

I've had moments where I get jealous of the time that my boyfriend wants to spend with his friends -- but at the same time I was willing to hang out with them. If she loves you and wants to spend time with you as she says she does, then she should at least hang out with all of you ... even if she doesn't like them, for your sake she could at least just get along with them. If she can't do that then, yes, I agree that something has happened between your g/f and your friends. I don't see any other explanation. By no means should you put your girlfriend on some kind of schedule..trust me, I know from experience..it didn't last and it was pointless. Talking things out with your girlfriend and your best friend present my resolve the problem with your g/f and all of your friends if she just gets out what her problem truly is.