Is it really bad to pick on boys at school?

[pcmaster]

Remember when I was 6 years old one girl tore my favorite shirt. When I was 7 I pulled down her pants to expose her butt - she was in the middle of the playground. She screamed and cried and afterwards didnt came out to play for years.

[MistySally]

Tell them you're sorry and never do it again. What you were doing is anti-social behaviour so I'm glad you've said you'll never do it again. Now you just have to prove you'll never do it again ... by never doing it again.

I did apologized to the one that cried and haven't been picking on him since. But I still can at times be slightly mean to the 3 others (but like I said before, I'm less meaner and sometimes I'm actually nice too them).

If I do, will they forgive me? Now that I'm thinking, I'm kinda starting to feel kinda shitty.

[MistySally]

LMAO. What a bunch of pussies.

Well I'm still bigger (currently I'm 5'8 while they're shorter though one of them, Marcel is only 2 inches shorter; used to tower him back then), slightly heavier and can block an upcoming punch (I do know how to fight). I don't think it would have worked for them if one of them take it to that level.

[basilandthyme]

Yes, if you change they probably will forgive you in time. I think it's fair to say that most of us can forgive schoolyard bullies as we all mature. However, they will probably forgive you more quickly if you apologise and stop the behaviour completely.

And don't throw punches. Knowing how to fight is certainly helpful as self defence, but it's not appropriate at any other time.

For what it's worth, some friends and I were mean to some boys for a month or so when we were in year 7. I think it was because we wanted their attention but didn't know how to go about talking with them. Anyway, they reported us and a teacher put us in our place and we never did it again. After a bit of self examination, I was actually mortified about my own behaviour.

[basilandthyme]

LMAO. What a bunch of pussies.

I'm glad my kids won't be at school with your kids. I guess if your kids bully, you'd just advise the principal that the hurt child should just 'suck it up'?

[fearoflove]

I'm glad my kids won't be at school with your kids. I guess if your kids bully, you'd just advise the principal that the hurt child should just 'suck it up'?

Kids gonna have to learn how this world works.

[Rowen]

I guess I'll stop.

...Are you aware of what kind of long term effects can spawn from being bullied? And all you can say is "I guess"? Forgive me if I sound too blunt, but you sound like you need a reality check... Punch someone and call them a name once, and they'll bruise for a few weeks. Punch someone a few years and call them names, and you have someone who with low confidence and social trouble. I was lucky to never be bullied- well....in school or by strangers, at least. But it explains why I partly am the way that I am right now- a low confident, shy guy with insecurities who is the softest spoken even though he's 5' 11". :S So, all I ask is that before you think about bullying anyone again, think about how badly that can affect someone and cause them trouble in the future.
Not all scars are on the surface of the skin; I'm living proof of that... :S

[MistySally]

Yes, if you change they probably will forgive you in time. I think it's fair to say that most of us can forgive schoolyard bullies as we all mature. However, they will probably forgive you more quickly if you apologise and stop the behaviour completely.

Hopefully.

And don't throw punches. Knowing how to fight is certainly helpful as self defence, but it's not appropriate at any other time.

I would only punch if someone wants to fight me or sucker punches me while I'm not looking. Though I'm guilty about this one time I punched one of the boys in the arm and threw little rocks years earlier (when I started picking on them) and that was when I didn't have all the fighting skills I have now. If it resulted in a fight back then, it would have been even then but he didn't do anything. Then I saw a boy slighter taller than him trying to do the same thing but he end up punching the headlights out of him. From then on, I guess I've been guilty of using that against them too. I guess I'm/was a coward too.

For what it's worth, some friends and I were mean to some boys for a month or so when we were in year 7. I think it was because we wanted their attention but didn't know how to go about talking with them. Anyway, they reported us and a teacher put us in our place and we never did it again. After a bit of self examination, I was actually mortified about my own behaviour.

And are they your friends now?

Do you know how long it'll take for them to come around after I apologize? I still like one of them. Can we ever be friends?

[Braddicks]

Well I'm still bigger (currently I'm 5'8 while they're shorter though one of them, Marcel is only 2 inches shorter; used to tower him back then), slightly heavier and can block an upcoming punch (I do know how to fight). I don't think it would have worked for them if one of them take it to that level.

Or how about this?

Maybe they have fighting skills too but don't use it because they don't want to end up hurting you. OP if one of them happens to an excellent fighter and pretty soon grows bigger and stronger than you, then you would be at a disadvantage. Then again, no matter how old a guy this would still be a bad position for him. It's still going to be a lost for him and you know it. I know this because most of my friends and guys at my campus can fight well and deflect blows too. One Mike Tyson punch from them and not even the strongest nor biggest girl would be able to go towards Round 2.

I would only punch if someone wants to fight me or sucker punches me while I'm not looking. Though I'm guilty about this one time I punched one of the boys in the arm and threw little rocks years earlier (when I started picking on them) and that was when I didn't have all the fighting skills I have now. If it resulted in a fight back then, it would have been even then but he didn't do anything. Then I saw a boy slighter taller than him trying to do the same thing but he end up punching the headlights out of him. From then on, I guess I've been guilty of using that against them too. I guess I'm/was a coward too.

My point exact. I think that particularly guy is indeed an good fighter.

[basilandthyme]

And are they your friends now?

Do you know how long it'll take for them to come around after I apologize? I still like one of them. Can we ever be friends?

Actually we never became 'friends'. But I think that's mostly because we socialised in different groups.

How long will it take them to come around? That depends entirely on them and whether or not they are willing to trust you. All you can do is give them time and space and show permanently nicer self....the rest is up to them.

[Love'sReject]

Haven't you asked this before?

[MistySally]

How long will it take them to come around? That depends entirely on them and whether or not they are willing to trust you. All you can do is give them time and space and show permanently nicer self....the rest is up to them.

Yeah I guess I'll give them time. Hopefully we can get along afterwards.

[MistySally]

Haven't you asked this before?

Huh?? I'm new here.

[Love'sReject]

LMAO. What a bunch of pussies.

You know who else are pussies? Us poor pussy morons who go to college and not university. Yeah, we're all real stupid and deserve to be shot, Old Yeller style, amirite?

[MistySally]

You know who else are pussies? Us poor pussy morons who go to college and not university. Yeah, we're all real stupid and deserve to be shot, Old Yeller style, amirite?

So why don't you send a letter to the univeristy you want and go there?