While that's partly true for the man aspect. I look for confidence as well. Every guy will notice physical attributes first. Just straight up. If a chick looks unhealthy at a club (Crackhead super skinny skeleton looking type of chick or very overweight) there's no way I'd approach that person. Even if they had all the confidence on the planet. Sounds kinda shallow but I'm just being honest. You need that physical aspect at first. Just the way someone carries themselves and the confidence helps also. This isn't to say I haven't dated chubby or skinny women in the past. But there is such a thing as too much. Whether that be too skinny or too big. Same thing goes for men I'm sure.