Originally Posted by
Wakeup
You have not told her you want to separate. You have not told her you spent 12 hours being ego stroked (and god knows where else) by another woman because you feel undervalued and bored with her. You have not told her what you've so candidly told us here. I suggest you take off your denial glasses and stop turning things around on those that give you a suggestion.
Oh you narcissistic snipe you. You don't see why you should tell her how bad it is or that you don't tell her you've connected to another woman however? She doesn't believe you'd cheat. That is why you enable her to be this passive little mouse you've come to hate. You enable her to be that person. Hello... she doesn't believe you'd cheat. She needs to understand that you will so that she stops taking you for granted. Stop being so vague with her. Many people have told you this already. She doesn't get. Make it so she does and quit enabling her to be who she is.
How many times have I and others told you that you need to be honest with her and to quit enabling her to be who she is. You are so bad for her at this point that I now truly believe that she would be far better off without you.
Too late for that now that you've revealed more about the dynamics of how you've handled the unresolved issues in your union.
I hold a mirror up to you, sport and you don't like it. This is not about me so quit being NPD and stop trying to turn it around so that I look like I've got a marriage problem to make your's look less ugly.
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Okay Wakeup, you are f-ing awesome. Good job. I think at least part of the reason Phil continues to spew shit is that his head is so far up his ass.
Second thoughts can generally be amended with judicious action; injudicious actions can seldom be recovered with second thoughts.
--Cyteen by C.J.Cherryh