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you can not forget a true love
This is EXACTLY how I feel!
Whiskey? Weed?
I cried on everybodys shoulder,,, and my ex from long ago, stepped up and sent text messages, every night for like two weeks, with things that took my mind off the loss, then said,, ok you ok now, Im done playing shrink. I thank her. it helps.
There is no simple answer to this. But been there and moved on, here is what I know for sure...
Life moves on and some people become distant memories. Here are 6 basic principles you should keep in mind as you strive to forget someone you loved.
1. Stop, Breathe and Rest
When something breaks down, it’s a process. Be gentle. Breakups feel like lying on a bed of razors. But that is how certain things in life are. They are difficult. The first thing to ever do is breathe. Take a break. Process it. I know, it feels horrible. But there are times in life when life demands more from us. It demands resilience and courage. The first step to any healing is taking a step back and just hanging in there.
2. Stop Visiting The Special Places
When we are intimate with someone, we end up creating memories. And once the person is gone we end up revisiting those memories. The songs, restaurants, the roads, and every place come to haunt us. And no matter why you broke up, you will have impulses to call or go back. Many people give up in this phase and go back, only realizing that memories were much better than reality. Your special places will act as a trigger.
Stop going or visiting all those special places or maybe even the songs. Go to new places, have fresh new memories. The brain will rewrite everything. It always does. Give yourself that grace period. You will be fine.
3. Try anything new and exciting to overcome his memories
Take a piece of paper. Write things you are scared of doing (or loved doing but never did). Maybe bungee jumping or a solo trip? Then do it. Nothing expands us more than doing something we thought was not our cup of tea and that builds our confidence too.
Once you do what you thought you could not, it gives you new skies to fly in and you become a new person. So many times breakups are the best times to find who we are truly meant to be. Because the purpose of pain is always to expand us. Trust me on that.
4. Stay With Your Circle That Uplifts You
I can never emphasize enough, the influence your intimate circle can have on you. Stay with the ones who uplift you. Stay with the ones who see the good in you. With whom you forget all your past.
Half of my personal battles were won because my inner circle lifted me as a champion when I saw myself as someone ragged and tattered. No breakup is easy to go, nor was mine.
Stay close to the ones who love you and want you to do well. When people around you see the good in you, you become it. Especially when you are hitting an emotional low. Find people who will be your cheerleaders. You will reach the zenith quicker and stay emotionally healthy.
5. Learn A New Craft to move on
Sometimes we hit emotional low so that we can remap our journeys in life. Even a breakup can move mountains in your life or can give you immense passion to do something incredible in life.
Sometimes a fall is actually a call by the Universe to take a new road. Try taking a new craft (Maybe you can decorate your house with these out of waste ideas) that lightens you up. Immerse in it. And you will find ways to build a new life, you might have never foreseen.
The idea is not to become a master in that art form but to find different parts of who you are. Maybe today is the day for something new.
6. Forgive and Forget him like a good memory
Here is the last nail in the coffin of pains. Forgiveness will detox you from your past, no life class or yoga class ever can. Forgiveness is the ultimate form of self-care. Forgiveness does not justify what the other person did to you. It only takes away the pain you are carrying.
Once you are healed, you will not find the past that attractive but the new roads are more alluring. That is when you can let go or forget your past. If there is one thing I know for sure is that heartbreaks tell us that we are not yet home. And we need a new journey.
Yeah Halis Kiris from Colakli/Manavgat Turkey, love Rat with many nick names incl. bhebeqo, not easy to forget your love, but never to forget Rat like you.
Get a doctor, see my thread to understand why your way of loving is sick, does love do this?
- ask for pornography of the loved one?
- steal identity of the loved one?
- send her very intimate pictures you asked for to her friends, family and kids?
- steal money from her family, letting them pay for your pleasures?
- blackmailing for 100000 EUR?
- humiliating the love and her children?
- posting nasty things on her profiles?
- lies and manipulations?
Difference between man and boy is in the value of their toys
You and Mehmet Arslan Kara make toys from naive ladies, you don't know what the love is, get treatment immediately as you are dangerous to everyone.
And finally stop spamming broken hearts forum, it is for real men and women seeking relief.
Ladies, please see my threads about the love Rats at broken hearts and ask the female forums, you will see who this sick Rat is.
“Accept — then act. Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it. Always work with it, not against it. Make it your friend and ally, not your enemy. This will miraculously transform your whole life.”
― Eckhart Tolle
CanMoveOn, correct, not only that. I received two PMs with short messages BLAH BLAH BLAH, that is it, from the bot bhebeqo. Apparently this is the sick criminal who is living from the fake feelings of his victims. I dare to say with full confidence it is him, the subject of the thread the ladies should be aware of. HALIS KIRIS from Colakli/ Manavgat / Antalya / Turkey. At least we can see how far these sick love rats can go. Shame on you Halis. Shame on you LOVE RATS!!!
LOL, I got a PM with same words. Guess that tells us they are not a man, but a child, under age of 15, maybe Wonder who else they PM'd beside us? and why?
I love your term: love rats"
“Accept — then act. Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it. Always work with it, not against it. Make it your friend and ally, not your enemy. This will miraculously transform your whole life.”
― Eckhart Tolle
I sent them a F uck off finger early on and then blocked them, so no PMs to me. If I was both of you, block all four spammer usernames.
“The world would be a nicer place if everyone had the ability to love as unconditionally as a dog.”