Hi,
I recently met a guy on a night out whilst travelling. We shared a kiss and he walked me back to my hotel later on, we sat and spoke for ages but he didn't try it on and after about 2 hours of talking he said he had to get back to his hotel and walked off. He then came back 30 seconds later looking embarrassed and asked if he could have my facebook. We exchanged names and had a bit of banter over chat the next day but then both moved on to different locations. I got back from travelling a few weeks later and we started talking. He said that he was moving to a town 10 minutes down the road from me in a couple of weeks and that I should show him around. A couple of weeks later he contacted me to say that he had just moved that day and would I still like to meet up sometime to which I accepted. A few days later we went on a date which went really well, we had a lot in common and I was ridiculously attracted to him. However, we both spent a lot of the time we were together telling each other that we had both had people come on way too strong and that we were quite chilled about dating and liked our own time. I kind of left the date feeling a little bit confused as to why we'd gone out even though I was also saying (and telling the truth at the time when I said it) that I wasn't particularly looking for a relationship. By the time we'd gone on our date I'd already planned to go and live in another country for a few months so for the 3 weeks until I left he'd ask if he could see me again if I had time before I left, so we went on 3 more dates before I left, he always took me to really nice places, paid the bill, treated me like a gentleman should and didn't even try to kiss me until our 3rd date. (We only really spoke between dates if we were arranging another time to meet). I ended up only being away for a week because I wanted to be home, but I didn't hear from him the whole time I was away. Then the day I got back he texted me to ask how it was going for me, and I explained that I'd come home so he asked me out again. This time he had been injured so he came to my place, we ordered food and stayed in. We ended up staying up until 4am talking even though he had work and I offered him to stay, he said he didn't want me to feel like I had to offer but I wanted him to, although I didn't want to sleep with him. When we got in to bed I kept my tshirt on to symbolise this. We rolled around kissing for a while but he didn't try it on I with me. Then he left on Sunday and we texted a little bit on Sunday afternoon. I didn't hear from him again until Tuesday when he said to let him know if I wanted to hang out again. So I said I was available on Thursday to which he replied 'so soon?!' Then texted again to say he was joking and it sounded good. Thursday came and he texted me when he'd finished work to ask if I was still free, he said he was knackered so could we do something chilled, so I responded saying I was really hungover too. So he asked if I wanted to do it another time, I said I was fine but could rearrange if he was too tired, to which he said he was 'tired and had stuff to do' but to let him know whether I was free next week. (it was 3pm in the afternoon). I said 'I'm not sure I'll let you know' to which he replied 'make sure you do, well do something next week'. I didn't reply because I felt like he was fobbing me off with an excuse I've used many times, and wanted to spare myself the embarrassment. That was on Thursday, it's now Monday and I haven't heard anything. Do you think I should text him? Or do you think I should hold out to see if he texts me. I try to think of it as an outsider and to be honest I'd say if he's cancelled the date because 'he has stuff to do' he's probably not really as interested as I am and I should save myself the future heartache. It's strange because he treated me like such a gentleman while we were out but I just didn't really feel like he made much of an effort I between. Any suggestions?? Help!! Am I over reacting over his lack of contact between dates and cancelling a date I would never ever have cancelled because I was excited about it.