My boyfriend broke up with me in July. He did some bad things in the end but on the whole it was I who behaved stupidly in the relationship. I was clingy, wanted to see him all the time, let him get no proper time, started easy fights, made him feel like he was not good enough, etc. In addition, I put on my weight.
The reason for this was that I had extremely low self-esteem. Since then I hace worked hard to improve myself, I have reduced 20 kg weight, I have expanded my social intercourse lots and made new friends. I have also thought a lot about what I did wrong in the relationship and tried to improve myself. I have done that both myself but I have also taken the help of a psychologist and a relationship coach.
My opinion is that I probably would not have been able to be with someone as I was before, anybody had finally dumped me because I put my happiness in their hands and did not really have my own life.
I feel that I would like to give me and my ex-boyfriend a chance if he's willing to do so. So therefore I have thought that I should suggest a coffee. We have had NO contact during the summer and fall so it will be the first contact for a long time (if he even answers when I call).
My questions to you guys is you were in my exboyfriends situation and your ex-girlfriend called you and you haven’t heard from her for a couple of months, would you answer the phone? (Considering you too said and did bad things in the end that you felt a bit a shamed of).
If you met her and she had lost weight, become better looking, better charisma, happier, more at ease with herself and seems to have a life of their own, would you give her a chance then do you think? At least a chance to get to know eachother again. (You are not dating anyone special)
Since I also wonder if he asks about what happen if I should tell you that I met a psychologist and coach, or if it is foolish to reveal it? (If it lowers the chances of me)
Is there anything else you as a girl could do to bring that expojkväns interest in? Increase the attraction? Doing so he sees as girlfriend material again?
Thank you ..