Tips and Advice on Moving on

[fredrickboss23]

Story goes I help friend ask girl to dance. Tweet pic of that. Girl makes tweet sayin teamwork makes dream reality. I RT her then she changes banner sayin never look down on anyone unless helpin him up. I took that personally and texted her about how I got mad/upset. I blocked her than unblocked her and told her to follow me back. I felt bad for overreacting, so showed my affection toward her by sayin I had a crush on her when I didn't. That probably made things more complicated. Asked her out in Jan and told me she had BF. Tried talkin to her in Feb but she ran away from me and than blocked me. If I had not overreacted to that banner than things between us would be fine and we never would have texted. I just wanted to keep her # in my contacts I had no romantic interest in her at all. The things I do to go back in time and not RT her and overreact to that which caused everything. Any tips and advice on how to deal with this?

[fredrickboss23]

The thing that makes this harder to move on from is that I screwed things up myself with this girl. Advice and tips on moving on from this is much appreciated.

[pcmaster]

I realy dont see anything to move on from. Maybe you been thinking about her too much. Get busy work and self improvment. Should help remove thoughts from subject.
Also check this guide.
loveforum.net/the-relationship-news-and-articles/85672-guide-deal-breakup.html

[fredrickboss23]

Also she told manager at gym that i was makin her uncomfortable after i asked her out. Recentely told manager i was makin her uncomfortable hoverin around her desk. He said she just wants. Hi and bye. Still has me blocked on twitter but follows me on IG. She says she wants to be friends but by her actions of how she hardly acknowledges my presence and she plays bball with my one friend and not me and she considers him a friend makes me question her seriousness of being a friend to me. But when i asked her If she wants to be friends she said yes, but I question the seriousness.

[fredrickboss23]

I realy dont see anything to move on from. Maybe you been thinking about her too much. Get busy work and self improvment. Should help remove thoughts from subject.
Also check this guide.
loveforum.net/the-relationship-news-and-articles/85672-guide-deal-breakup.html

This was the only girl whose number I got myself and approached to ask for. She's the only girl whose number I have. Says a lot there are millions of girls I have met but she was the first one i approached myself to get her number. We are into the same stuff plus I think she is really pretty. That's why I am struggling with how badly I messed up. Who knows if she even has my number now or has it blocked??

[anya_may21]

If you are not romantically interested in her why does this bother you so much and why are you keeping at trying to get her attention?

Can't you just tell her sorry I was being the way I was with you back then.

if she doesn't accept then move on, because now it will become harassment.

[fredrickboss23]

If you are not romantically interested in her why does this bother you so much and why are you keeping at trying to get her attention?

Can't you just tell her sorry I was being the way I was with you back then.

if she doesn't accept then move on, because now it will become harassment.

I'm not romantically interested in her at all, but I think she's cool and we are into the same stuff plus she's only girl whose number I had so that's why it bothers me a little bit. We got along EXTREMELY well prior to me taking that personally. Yea I said I'm sorry she said that I didn't do anything wrong about me taking that thing personally and said I'm a great guy. Keeping at trying to get her attention because I want to feel like I have a friend in her. Yea like today I noticed she said hi to couple of guys I knew today who she considers friends but when I walked by she never really said Hi or greeted me warmly. Also when she walked past those guys again she started a conversation with them, but if I was there she would just walk past me and never start a conversation with me. Also a guy was playing bball today she shoots around with him and he walks over to talk to her and he never gets called out for making her uncomfortable or anything. If I playing she wouldn't shoot hoops with me. Those guys and guy she was shooting hoops with are gonna feel like they have a friend in her as compared to me.

[anya_may21]

So you feel connected to her as a friend only? Have you explained that to her yet?

Good that you have since apologized, from what you said above she appears forgiving.

Maybe she doesn't want to give you false hope, that is why not as warm to you as the other guys?

[fredrickboss23]

So you feel connected to her as a friend only? Have you explained that to her yet?

Good that you have since apologized, from what you said above she appears forgiving.

Maybe she doesn't want to give you false hope, that is why not as warm to you as the other guys?

Haven't really explained that to her yet. She probably still thinks I have a crush on her after pretending I did cause I felt bad for overreacting. Yea that could be the reason why she isn't warm towards me only god knows why. Feel like talking and having a discussion with the manager and telling him the whole story of this and telling him about the misunderstanding that she think i'm interested in her romantically because I pretended after taking that personally and that i just want a healthy friendship. Than tell him about how I notice she treats the other gym members who she considers friends like I mentioned in my last post as compared to me. And how I want her to treat me as a friend. What you think of that idea? He'll talk to her for me?

[anya_may21]

It definitely is why you are getting less attention off her compared to the other guys, she thinks you might take that attention and run with it and she might not want to unintentionally lead you on if she herself would only want a friendship with you.

I'd suggest letting her know you only want a friendship and she doesn't need to be awkward around you.

[fredrickboss23]

It definitely is why you are getting less attention off her compared to the other guys, she thinks you might take that attention and run with it and she might not want to unintentionally lead you on if she herself would only want a friendship with you.

I'd suggest letting her know you only want a friendship and she doesn't need to be awkward around you.

Yea It will hard to tell her in person due to how she's been acting towards me. I'm just thinking about talking to the manager and telling him everything mentioned in my last post and yea he will convey that message to her dealing with friendship.

[anya_may21]

No, why would you want a third party to get involved? That might embarrass her you telling another and having him talk to her?

Is the manager both of yours friend?

[fredrickboss23]

No, why would you want a third party to get involved? That might embarrass her you telling another and having him talk to her?

Is the manager both of yours friend?

We both know the manager. I played bball with him sometimes. She already tolod him twice that I was. Makin her uncomfortable and that sure made me embarrassed and feel bad/pissed. But I don't think I can covey that to her in person so gonna need someone to do that for me. Maybe the manager or a mutual friend around our age. Ahhh this is tough. Really appreciate all the input.

[fredrickboss23]

The thing that is tough about moving on from all this too is I see her literally everyday at the gym cause she's there a lot and works part time there.

[anya_may21]

I don't see why you both can't be friends and friendly, she needs to just know you don't want her as a potential partner and there is no lingering love for her on your part.

Are you still going to ask your manager to discuss things for you?