Hey all
I'm in a bad way today. I don't have anyone to talk to so I'm just going to blurt my emotions here and i might get some helpful replies if not its off my chest.
I have been in a relationship for 13 months. I'm not sure if i can take it any longer. I don't know where to start here but i will try. my girlfriend shows me hardly any attention or affection. she works with her friends everyday and chats to one of them almost every day and night. if i message or call her more than 2 or 3 times a week she gets upset and says she feels trapped. we lived together for 6 months but she moved out because she felt trapped and said she had lost her passion for drawing was feeling drained and lazy living with me. we are still together but she shows me little to no interest. i am open and upfront with her about my feelings on everything and she doesn't care. she is completely dismissive of me. when we are around her friends or her family which is very rare these days she acts a different way to me, she acts pretty much normal as if she doesn't want them to see how bad she really treats me. she hardly appreciates me and the good man i am to her.
when she visits me and we communicate she tells me all her opinions and never considers any of mine then she just sits on the fone texting her friends or reading paying me no attention. i don't think she has ever made a compromise for me in our relationship. it seems once a week i am compromising something for her. she does not listen to my future wishes, beliefs, interests and is never willing to take my opinions into consideration. when i persist to talk to her about all these problems and try and resolve them she either shuts me out by not replying to my messages for days on end or hanging up on me or telling me i am harassing her when all i am trying to do is come to an agreement where i can be treated better so i can be happy, so we can both be happy.
yesterday we were talking about the type of future houses we should buy and she was dismissive of all my opinions about anything not willing to compromise and her attitude is if you don't like it than thats tough luck. she likes smaller places as they are less hassle and i suggested she may change her opinion after having children. boy was that a mistake. she had a passive aggressive fit at me saying i have no right to tell her that she will change her mind after having children and then another rant about me thinking she is stupid. i don't think she is stupid. i tell her all the time she is one of the smartest girls i have ever met.
after this i decided enough was enough and i had to stand up to this. so i told her how bad she made me feel as usual then i demanded an apology and said i wont talk to her until she apologises. she said she wasn't apologising and goodbye. i messaged her again today hoping she had calmed down asking her if she was ready to apologise as i am good to her and didn't deserve it she is still ignoring me. several hours later.
what do i do here? i'm just lost, i love this girl so much why cant she just treat me like a normal person at least as good as her friends I'm not expecting any better treatment than that.
if there is anything anyone would like me to go into deeper detail with just ask. to whoever reads this thank you. i hope no one else has to go through this horrible feeling.