Why cant I find a companion(GF)

[GreenKoalaFUNK]

Ok girls … what's missing?

I will be 29 this summer and I came to a point, when the burden off being single is playing on my psyche in a way, that I am losing my focus on other grounds. I can’t manage to get the right girls to be interested in me.

The question is what’s missing?

So my life story in short … I will add here, that I normally don’t describe myself in this manner. I am doing it here, because it’s anonymous.
I come from a poor descent. There was a point in my life when my family was taking loans from banks just for pure survival. Later I finished my studies and became a development engineer at a company that most likely 70% of people worldwide know. So I am fully capable of sustaining myself and a potential partner. I am ambitious, starting a company of my own. I have my own apartment, car… which is more an exception than rule in the country I come from.

Where I defer from other people is that I waste little time. I don’t watch TV and I don’t own one. I don’t gamble or play computer games.

My strong point is my intelligence. Only my best friends and family know my IQ scores as well as the complexity off my opinions in regards to philosophy, politics and other fields that are not something one would bring up in a conversation. I am able to understand logical principles given to me with an exception off girls. I have a relatively sophisticated sense of humour.

English is a very foreign language to me and I never been to an English speaking country. I can communicate in four foreign languages of different language descends with the same quality you are reading here. I understand and am able to communicate in one or two more. I am not bragging, I would never point this out, but here I can, because it’s anonymous .

I regularly do sport. I run every week, do strength exercises, rock climb, go hiking, cross county bicycle riding, I am beginning to do gymnastics and I was doing martial arts until I got injured and had to quit because off my work obligations (risk factor). So I look sporty.

I have few real friends and a lot of friends and a few FB friends. I go to concerts and events I get invited to. I spend a minimum off one day a week for parties or other forms of socialising. Two would be an average. I don’t get drunk but I smoke a joint now and then.

Now people around me are starting to put more and more indirect pressure on me on this issue. And since this is also an issue for me it’s beginning to seriously bug me, which is clear since I am posting it here. I am simply not able to just ignore this relationship aspect of life or to find any way to change the trend.

So what’s missing?

[MrLoyal]

You sound like you are a TTP. I'm not sure what it could be.

How are your dating skills? Do you have trouble approaching women? Are you a confident guy?

[chinagirl]

There is nothing wrong with you. You just need to put yourself out there and meet the right woman. Try to be more outgoing and meet as many girls as you can.

Invite some female co workers out to lunch or buy extra concert tickets and invite girls. Seems to me that you just need to be more pro active in approaching girls ;-)

Good luck!

[smackie9]

Sorry but personally I would find you boring. You have some good attributes, but you lack passion. You read like a text book. Good luck with everyone's advice.

[Boisdevie]

The OP is 29 and this is only bugging him now? Why such a late starter?

[UnconLove4All]

Sorry but personally I would find you boring. You have some good attributes, but you lack passion. You read like a text book. Good luck with everyone's advice.

Could you please elaborate on this?
I would be interested in reading your answer.
Also you have offered no true help to OP.

[searock]

I can’t manage to get the right girls to be interested in me.

What do you mean by "the right girls"? Maybe you're too picky? Have you ever had a girlfriend? Why did it end?

[smackie9]

Could you please elaborate on this?
I would be interested in reading your answer.
Also you have offered no true help to OP.

Yes I have. I gave him a probable reason why he isn't attracting women.....he is boring because he shows no passion. Everyone else has covered the rest with their suggestions.

btw I don't see you contributing anything except picking at my post. Remember when you point a finger at someone, there are 6 pointing back at you. Or as they say, people who live in glass houses.....

[MrLoyal]

Ouch! Smacky is a fiestry one. Grrrrrrr! Lol

[smackie9]

Ouch! Smacky is a fiestry one. Grrrrrrr! Lol

Ah it's probably the OP trolling his own thread lol.....it wouldn't surprise me.

[XyOh]

GreenKoalaFunk,

According to you, you're the perfect guy. But yet you can't find women. What kind of advice did you really expect to get without posting any of your history with women or what attempts you've made to find a girlfriend? If you're eager to make yourself look successful, you've done it. But we don't need your resume to give you advice, we need what hasn't been working for you. Please tell us if you've even attempted to look for women, what kind of women you're looking for, what those attempts are, and some history if you think it's relevant.