My boyfriend of a few months has a habit of not speaking to me for several days after an argument.. I always have to contact him first whether I feel that I'm at fault or not.. Our first argument was because he felt that I was taking too long to get ready and became angry.. He told me that I was inconsiderate, rude, arrogant and I give off the impression that I'm never wrong.. He was extremely angry and this surprised me as I had never seen him behave this way.. In the midst of an argument, I have a habit of raising my pitch, and using hand gestures... He told me that doing this was rude and I agree he is right.. I apologized for my behavior but he brings that up in every argument.. He says " I can't talk to you about you" because of the way I behave.. even when he is clearly at fault.. When he is at fault, he will use this phrase after I bring up an issue about him.. I would spend hours defending myself until I forget that the issue was about him.. He only hears what he wants to during a disagreement and will twist my words.. I don't know if he realizes that he does this.. He has told me that he loves me and was very emotional after an argument because he said that it hurts him because I make it hard for him to talk to me..
Once, I was 4 minutes late meeting him for a movie and he was angry when I arrived.. He was half dressed when I arrived and said it was because he didn't think I would make it so he started getting undressed.. Again, he told me that I was rude and never wrong.. On the way to the movie he was still yelling and cursing and when I told him to stop, he abruptly switched lanes went back to his place and left me outside.. He texted me a week later to say he was sorry.. He has never hit me but he does have serious anger issues that I believe stem from his troubled childhood with his mother...
I have an issue with him because he shows up late to my house or sometimes doesn't show up at all.. I would receive a text in the morning saying he fell asleep.. He prefers to text over talking on the phone and never seems to want to do anything with me on the weekends anymore.. Because of this, I have never felt secure in the relationship.. When we are getting along, we have lots of fun, he is sensitive and caring.. We are currently not speaking because he called me one morning and I didn't answer.. I sent me a text that said "I'm never calling you in the morning again and good morning. I called him back a few minutes later and he began to tell me 3 things about me that was bothering him., I answered his questions and we hung up.. Later that night, I asked him if he was irritated, he said that he wasn't and I was only saying this because he brought up issues about me and again" He can never talk to me about me".. Should I just give up on this relationship? Sorry it's so long...