I can't orgasm!!

[Fyesteema4]

Ok, so I'll be having sex or being stimulated in some other way and it will start feeling really good, and I can feel the build up and a flush through my body, but then all of the sudden it gets to a point and it just STOPS. The pleasure ends, and I don't come or anything. Now I don't masturbate, I've tried it, and I've tried vibrators and still no O! Is it possible my body just can't reach orgasm!? HELP.

[Junket]

Just FYI for future reference.

Use a darker font.

[artyemi]

when you're stressed out about it, it's harder..
relax.
just chill.

[shh!]

Are you male or female? Assuming you are female, it is important to know that the intensity of the orgasm varies widely from a very little almost-nothing to a very intense, near-death sensation. :-) Also, you might want to consider focusing on the process rather than the end result, because anxiety about not being able to reach will certainly affect your ability to do so. Be careful with the vibrators, as I have heard that it makes orgasms harder to come by when one becomes used to motor-driven means. (That is NOT to say you shouldn't experiment with them, but that you shouldn't become entirely dependent upon them.)

By the way: stay away from the pink font on future posts.

[shh!]

that is to say vibrators "make orgasms **with men** harder to come by..."

[Loveboat]

I'm curious. How many orgasms do you on an average get daily?

[Fyesteema4]

I have never had an orgasm. And while in the act I don't stress about it, or thnk about the end result, its like I'm about the have one, but then nothing happens. And I'm female by the way.

[ALovelyLady86]

Did something happen to you as a child or even as a teen where now you dont feel comfortable to allow yourself to cum?
I ask this because everything your body does is mind over matter. Once you have let yourself go you will be able to cum. Sometimes its also a matter of getting to know what feels good, but with this situation you say you are almost there and then it just stops. Sounds more like a nervous or trust issue to me. Do you feel like you cant do it because its wrong or dirty?

[Junket]

Sounds more like a nervous or trust issue to me. Do you feel like you cant do it because its wrong or dirty?

You're wrong and dirty.

...

HAHAHAHA!

Come on.

You know it was funny.

[Only-virgins]

It could be because your thinking at the same time that your Boyfriend is a loser?

[Junket]

It could be because your thinking at the same time that your Boyfriend is a loser?

BAM!
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[Fyesteema4]

Originally Posted by Only-virgins
It could be because your thinking at the same time that your Boyfriend is a loser?

haha. :-) To answer the questions, nothing happened to me as a child or a teen sexually that would create problems in this area I don't think. I don't think its dirty, I love having sex with my boy and we both want me to come, and I do feel relaxed whenever we mess around. I just feel like it has something to do with my body! I feel like its just unable and I also think my clit is pretty small...

[ALovelyLady86]

You just need to find ways to please yourself, have open communication during sex, and dont be afraid to tell him what feels good and not to move once hes found that spot. Clear your mind totally... dont look around the room... just close your eyes and get to it! lol

[King Zarathu]

okay it's the boy's fault.. he sucks get a new one.

btw frasbee, yes, that was hilarious -.-

[Junket]

btw frasbee, yes, that was hilarious -.-

Haha, all that matters is that somebody acknowledged it at all.

My job is done here.

::SWOOSH!::