Hi , I hope anyone can help me with some advice on what to do next
About 4 months ago i met a man and we started out as friends. Gradually we started being sexually involved while at the same time i found out he has a woman in another country. he went and saw her a couple of months ago and thats when i found out she was someewhat significant.
He then broke everything off with her early December and a few days later we had sex. We have been naked together a few times, kissed and had a shower together, that kind of thing.
He and i are very good friends and have an awesome time together as friends, beyond our brief sexual involvement. I have stayed at his house for days at a time, (as friends) with him not wanting me to leave. Pretty much inseperable.
He has never had a good thing to say about this woman he has in another country. Saying she is jealous and possessive, calls his friends to find out if they are sexually involved with him. Really she sounds psychotic. So with all this bad stuff he says i have been saying well, really why would you want to be with her?, she will get worse. Basically discouraging him from being involved with her. Because it just sounded bad.
Anyway around 2 weeks ago at the height of our friendship he told me that he actually thinks he is in love with this woman. It kind of stung, but i didnt say anything.
Then my feelings started to grow for him and then last weekend he said he would consider marrying her, and bringing her back to our country.
My heart broke, and at that point i told him i LOVED him.
Anyway all hell broke loose and he wouldnt speak to me for a week, and eventually when we did speak today he told me that he isnt angry that i told him i love him, he is angry because he feels like our friendship was a FRAUD. Because i have been over the past few weeks trying to talk him out of continuing this woman. He thinks i have been manipulating the situation because he thinks that the whole time i have just wanted him and thats why i have been saying bad things about her
But all i was doing was repeating what he told me about her. He never had anything good to say about her ,and all i was doing was mirroring what he was saying. I dont know her beyond what he has told me
He is angry at me. He says we can speak in a couple of days.
I am mainly heartbroken that he probably doesnt trust me now and i will lose him as a friend.
What do you advise i do. I do really love him. But if i was to choose between love and friendship i would choose friendship.
But really i do want him. Should i just wait for him to call?