Lost Sex Life

[juniorrox1]

So my girlfriend of four years won't have sex with me anymore, last time we had sex she was on top and she was really bad at it and i was drinking and i was a jerk about it now i dont know how to fix it. Any suggestions?

[pcmaster]

Fix problems that was there last time and try again. Be confident like you deserve it, dont apologise, be present. Once shes attracted emotionaly to you her guard will go down.

[searock]

Are you often drunk and a jerk when you're around her, or was that a one time thing? How long ago did this happen?

[michelle23]

Shes losing interest in you. Theres something missing in your relationship-likely emotional intimacy. You need to fix it. Are you affectionate? Romantic? Do you make her feel special? Do you take the time to give her good foreplay and orgasms? Do you spend enough quality time with her? Does she feel loved?

[Cerby]

Pull a card from the deck of romantic moves. Take her out for dinner like you used to as an early couple. Hold her hand, be romantic, and bring the "swing" back in to things. Nothing gets better on its own, so you need to make an effort. Usually sexual discord is the sign of a bigger problem in a relationship. You need to take steps to rectify whatever problems you have, and a nice candlelit dinner is usually a good way to start.

[juniorrox1]

Are you often drunk and a jerk when you're around her, or was that a one time thing? How long ago did this happen?

I'm never usually a jerk around her I don't know why I was this time. And it's been like 3 weeks.

[juniorrox1]

Shes losing interest in you. Theres something missing in your relationship-likely emotional intimacy. You need to fix it. Are you affectionate? Romantic? Do you make her feel special? Do you take the time to give her good foreplay and orgasms? Do you spend enough quality time with her? Does she feel loved?

I spend time with her whenever I can i love spending time with her, and i suck at foreplay so i just gave up on it.

[anastasis]

So my girlfriend of four years won't have sex with me anymore, last time we had sex she was on top and she was really bad at it and i was drinking and i was a jerk about it now i dont know how to fix it. Any suggestions?

Well, the problem sounds like that both of you are retarded.

Try getting married and practising for the next 30 to 40 years. There's bound to be some improvement.

I mean, when you're at rock bottom, there's no place left to go but up. So there's no harm in taking a whirl at it.

[Cerby]

I spend time with her whenever I can i love spending time with her, and i suck at foreplay so i just gave up on it.

Or you can practice, or read a book. This is probably why your sex life sucks, because you don't try and don't seem to care. This is the answer for you - no one wants to **** a dispassionate lover, so it is time to put some effort in to it. There are a lot of resources out there to make you better in bed, try using "google" or your local bookstore. You can find a lot of NSFW online videos as well.

Don't be lazy, nothing good comes from it.

[pcmaster]

Find klitoris and draw alphabet on it by using tang. Do foreplay until she cames or begs for dick. Watch girl on girl porn and learn.

[michelle23]

I spend time with her whenever I can i love spending time with her, and i suck at foreplay so i just gave up on it.

Seriously? God im surprised she has not dumped you yet. A shitty sex life usually results in no more sex. Its the first rule. If your not pleasuring her-shes not gonna want it. She can buy a dildo or use her hand and have more fun.. jeez.. its your job to ensure she dont get bored. Sex is a chore if its one sided

[searock]

and i suck at foreplay so i just gave up on it.

^^^here's the problem. Take Cerby's suggestions, educate yourself and at least try to pretend that you are passionate about having satisfying sex.

[juniorrox1]

Seriously? God im surprised she has not dumped you yet. A shitty sex life usually results in no more sex. Its the first rule. If your not pleasuring her-shes not gonna want it. She can buy a dildo or use her hand and have more fun.. jeez.. its your job to ensure she dont get bored. Sex is a chore if its one sided

Or you can practice, or read a book. This is probably why your sex life sucks, because you don't try and don't seem to care. This is the answer for you - no one wants to **** a dispassionate lover, so it is time to put some effort in to it. There are a lot of resources out there to make you better in bed, try using "google" or your local bookstore. You can find a lot of NSFW online videos as well.

Don't be lazy, nothing good comes from it.

^^^here's the problem. Take Cerby's suggestions, educate yourself and at least try to pretend that you are passionate about having satisfying sex.

Okay I do care if she enjoys it too i'm not a total a**hole I just suck at foreplay I get her off during sex I just don't eat her out, I tried that and I tried fingering her, when i tried fingering she stopped me right away and told me she hates being fingered and when I eat her out it just doesn't do anything so I guess I just stopped trying.

[BackUpOrGetStng]

Save yourself the energy and just break up.

[HeartIsAching]

i suck at foreplay so i just gave up on it.

That's your problem right there. Being a jerk didn't help.