Yeah, he is very vain. I found out from someone who went to a party of his recently last month that he was passing around his phone showing everyone how much i text him etc and how his texts are only one worded words; and he had one of my ex best friend's read my texts that i sent to him.He definitely changed for the worse. beyond worse! Turns out, He's "talking" to someone who has a daughter etc. I'm beyond hurt. I hope I can get past this. Thank you for the support though! I have 0 expectations that he will contact me, call me, or try to see me *shakes head* Its such a damn shame!
PS. To make matters worse, I haven't F**** anyone since he moved out in August or since i caught him cheating (after he had been sleeping with me for a month) when I walked in on him and the first rebound he was with! I guess that doesn't mean anything (I guess my faithfulness even after the breakup didn't mean anything) I'm beyond hurt and angry.
Last edited by ju1ie; 04-12-13 at 10:47 PM.
Well maybe you should. Not f**k someone. But go out on a few casual dates, flirt, have some fun.. itl boost your confidence a little and distract you from all this bollox but DONT get involved sexually or romantically. Your vulnerable right now and need to heal first..
His low self esteem explains a lot. Hes an insecure twit who uses women to validate and stroke his tiny ego. And him slagging you off shows how immature he is. Dont worry about it. Most people will think hes the tool-not you..
And i bet a handful of his friends think hes a muppet for how he treated you. Bet theyd love a chance with you.. revenge plot maybe?? just joking btw..
But seriously your worth more and you are really pretty btw
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Thanks! Yeah, I think I need to be alone for awhile cause i think I would be tempted to be "dependent" on someone and I don't wanna do that. I need to heal me first, do me, and focus on myself. Casual dating hasn't even crossed my mind. I need to learn to be alone for awhile...before i can even think about even casual dating.
Last edited by ju1ie; 04-12-13 at 06:02 PM.
Thats good have fun with your friends so. Get all dolled up and go clubbing or to a karioke bar. Do things that make you laugh. You can still come home and scream into your pillow or cry all night if you need to but try to live your life. Surround yourself with positive things and people. Join some hobbies, make new friends, get promoted or study a new topic. You will be fine. It just takes time. He wasnt the right one and theres someone better out there for you when your ready to be found..
Btw i agree with your friends. Hell have his rebounds and then realize hes f**ked up. He likely will come back and you need to be prepared to tell him where to go if/when he does. No second chances
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Michelle, I was thinking about your comment above for the past few days, and I've realized my ex used the f***** up bullshit excuses. that "I FELL OUT OF LOVE WITH YOU""WE'RE NOT MENTALLY ON THE SAME WAVE LENGTH " "WE DON'T MENTALLY OR INTELLECTUALLY CLICK " "I'M NOT IN LOVE WITH YOU" as all pretty much excuses to get out, do him (and deep down, I.think he wanted to "play the field " and screw whatever girl he wants... but couldn't tell me that to my face.
Well of course he did coz thats what hes doing!! Asshole! You deserve better then some insecure twit like him.
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He's an asshole hanging out with bitches. He's very shady in my opinion. You can do so much better. Never contact him again.
In order to get him back in your arms you have to first get your emotions under control. Losing the man you love is likely the hardest thing you've ever faced and your emotions are showing it. Crying endlessly, feeling depressed and wanting to hide out from the world are all common emotions women experience at a time like this. You need to learn how to harness all of that emotion. One of the biggest mistakes you can make right now is showing him that you're so emotional. Most men just aren't comfortable being around someone who is that emotional. If he sees or hears you acting that way he's going to label you as unstable and desperate. Once that happens it's even more challenging to get him back. Bite back the tears, put a smile on your face and appear to be okay. This will help you to show him that you're strong and stable.
yeah, that's the last thing I wanna come off as (desperate and unstable )...I'm trying to get past those emotions so staying really busy and working my a$$ off at work, and it seems to help alot. Thank you everyone else, for your advice and support. it means alot .to me.
Trying to be gentle but dear lady, sound like you may have to let this one go. You say you don't want to come off as desperate but this situation is making you just that. Not exactly what you had in mind is it.
Look, any person that truly digs another would not subject the other to any of that nonsense. Self respect. Find it again.
Well wishes for mending your broken heart.
yeah that's what I initially thought after his "unknown married woman friend " texted me that bullshit. I mean, I'm a firm believer in giving 2nd chances, but yeah I didn't deserve to be talked to like that from his "married friend " at all. I'm still pretty upset about it..
No you didn't deserve that. Was he even aware she was texting you or was he the one who asked her to and why is he with a married woman? Where is her husband?
Anyway, hope your well.
Sometimes people can be cowardly and avoid confrontation at all costs but from what your saying about this guy, yeah, your better off with one who will love and respect you and not screw around on you.
good luck
Yeah, sounds like you got yourself a real loser. And you, being a typical woman, are, of course, hopelessly in love with him. Probably makes you feel better about yourself. You're not actually in love with him. You're in love with you first of all, and then you're in love with the idea of being in love, but mostly you're in fear of not being in love. That's what you have. Fear of not being in love. Fear of not being in love is what keeps driving you back to him. But that's not love. It's about you, not him. YOU. You love YOU. You're in love with YOU. And to be totally in love with YOU, YOU need a man to give you a perceived social status context. He's a context...for YOU.
Maybe you can 'save' him, right? And he's going to be in a relationship with YOU, right? Always has to be about you, doesn't it?
Pfft.. Why do I even type for this tripe...
You will never convince me that this is love, but you would convince me that at least 52% of all marriages are driven by this very motive. It's the same motive that leads to 52% of divorces. You got married because you fell in love with you. And you got divorced because you fell in love with you again with either another context for you, or an independant context for you. Whatever it is, it's going to be about you.
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