Would Like To Hear Peoples Point Of View On This Whole Situation

[DownNtOut]

me and my ex gf split up a year ago. we had been going out for 10 months.
we kept in touch and met up about once a month for coffee or cinema.
in april i asked her if she would get back with me. she said no. we stayed
in contact and in july we went to a concert. she stayed over and we
hooked up that night. she stayed in bed with me til lunch time and then had to go.
a week later i went to her town and spilled my guts to her and said i was so in love
with her and wanted to be with her. she said she needed time to think as another ex
of her wanted to get with her. two days later she told me she was trying again with
her other ex, who lives in her town. she said she loved me in a friendship companion way.

a month of NC, she texts me to say she will be at the same music festival as me.
the 1st night we spend 4-5 hours dancing and i walk her back to her tent.
the 2nd day we spend together and kissed alot, seen loads of bands and had loads of fun. she suggested we spend the night together but not in a sexual way. we slept together the 2nd night.
the 3rd day we spent in each others company and with mates in a group.
after the festival i gave her space.
a month back i asked her to a concert and she agreed to go. we had dinner and the concert was great. its crazy how we can chat so easily.
when we got back to mine she was leaving i said to her maybe its better we dont see each other for a while.
we chatted for a hour, i asked her what was us being together at the festival all about as she had been back with her bf for a month. she said she never felt the way she feels with me with anyone else. said she could be herself with me.
i told her she is who i want to be with. i told her to to think about it. asked her to meet again in a week. she said she needed more time than that to think, i said ok. 3days later she text to say she was still thinking. i said take your time.

so i called her last friday to meet. we met monday. chatted for 4 hours in a cafe. i walked her to her car. asked her has anything changed. she said she was staying with her bf. she said her bf makes her feel the same as i do/did. she said she knows how i feel and that she would leave it up to me to contact her. she said she would never not want to meet up as friends. she said she loves to chat to me as she thinks im a great guy. i said i would need alot of time to heal and get over her.

during our chat in the cafe she asked me if i wanted to go on a trip with her and some other people. including her bf i guess. i not goin as i told her i dont wanna see her for now. shes left the ball in my court as to contacting her.

does she feel sorry for me?
what the hell was the last 6 months about?
was i ever really an option?
how long do you think her and the other ex will last?
should i never contact her again?

sorry about the long post
i just want other peoples point of view

thanks

[michelle23]

Your being a doormat. She has no intention of ever getting back with you. You have too little self respect for her to want you now. She enjoys you coz you adore her like a lost puppy and give her the attention she craves for her little ego boost but shes playing you like a fiddle coz she can.

You need to stay away from her, get over her and move on. Also stop letting women walk all over you. Its all or nothing

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[Peaches1605]

My guess is that she's keeping you on the hook. She likes the attention and ego boost you're giving her!

does she feel sorry for me?
No, she doesn't, she's using you.

what the hell was the last 6 months about?
She probably didn't know what she wanted and wanted to make sure

was i ever really an option?
Yes, you were. Just not a serious contender or who she wanted a proper relationship with

how long do you think her and the other ex will last?
It's hard to say, Depends if she keeps cheating on him

should i never contact her again?
No. Don't contact her. You don't need to be played.

[Wakeup]

should i never contact her again?

I vote you take this option. It will give you a good go at getting over her and finding someone decent.

[DownNtOut]

Your being a doormat. She has no intention of ever getting back with you. You have too little self respect for her to want you now. She enjoys you coz you adore her like a lost puppy and give her the attention she craves for her little ego boost but shes playing you like a fiddle coz she can.

You need to stay away from her, get over her and move on. Also stop letting women walk all over you. Its all or nothing

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Its really just been her i have been mad about. in to week 6 of NC
thanks for your comment

[DownNtOut]

My guess is that she's keeping you on the hook. She likes the attention and ego boost you're giving her!

does she feel sorry for me?
No, she doesn't, she's using you.

what the hell was the last 6 months about?
She probably didn't know what she wanted and wanted to make sure

was i ever really an option?
Yes, you were. Just not a serious contender or who she wanted a proper relationship with

how long do you think her and the other ex will last?
It's hard to say, Depends if she keeps cheating on him

should i never contact her again?
No. Don't contact her. You don't need to be played.

thanks
in week 6 of NC

[NiaPeach]

She is keeping you close to her so that she can keep you as an opened option meanwhile, she's not wanting to commit to keep her options open. In other words, this is all about her and her happiness. Not yours.

[DownNtOut]

She is keeping you close to her so that she can keep you as an opened option meanwhile, she's not wanting to commit to keep her options open. In other words, this is all about her and her happiness. Not yours.

thanks for your comment
your right
she can be happy with the boy she cheated on with me

NC 6weeks now

[DownNtOut]

all was good until xmas, i really expected a happy holidays or happy new year text. i got neither.
is it just new year blues? is this part of moving on or coming to terms with her not actually coming back to me.
i feel so low. thankfully i havent broke NC but she is in my head constantly again.

[Wakeup]

You're upset she didn't contact you because you're going about NC for the wrong reasons (or so it seems). You should be going no contact to help you get over her, not to hope she comes back. Stop thinking about by changing the subject of her that is looping through your mind to something other then her.

[lacey85]

Christmas is such a hard time because everything feels like it's geared towards love and romance and when you're trying to get over someone it's all you can think about. No contact is the only way to get over your feelings for someone and move on with your life- it is a win-win situation. Either your girl will realise what she is missing and come back to you OR you will find the time apart has allowed you to get over her and can move on with your life. It's the hardest thing and I have tried and failed at it many times but stick with no-contact- and keep reminding yourself that if someone wants you in their life they do something about it- don't chase her anymore!

[Lord Darkshire]

**shakes head** she invited you to go on a group trip with BF included? Seriously? You are getting burned left right and center. Every word from her must be torture. I agree with Wakeup, you need to stop talking or meeting up with her, hoping all the time...you will never get over her if you keep that up. It's been over a year now, just accept it's over and move on.

[DownNtOut]

thank you Wakeup, lacey85 and Lord Darkshire
10 weeks NC next week. I know she has gone, i guess she wanted to twist the knife as she liked the ego boost i gave her.
anyway i am feeling stronger now in the new year. focusing on me

[smackie9]

Good for you! I wish you nothing but good things for 2014

[DownNtOut]

thank you