Originally Posted by
DalM0m
How new is the new girl?
It sounds a little like you aren't over your friend who passed. If you aren't ready to move on, don't waste the new woman's time.
I will share this with you. 6 weeks after I started dating the man who is now my husband my EX died suddenly & tragically. I found out the morning after it happened. I was devastated & forgot to call my then new BF to cancel our date for that night. When he showed up that evening to pick me up, he found me lying on my living room floor, still in my PJs balling my eyes out. I had to tell him what was going on. I said that although I didn't want my EX back I did want him to be alive. This was the moment I fell in love with my husband because he cradled me in his arms, assured me that he had broad shoulder which I could cry all over & said that he'd be more concerned if I wasn't touched by the death of someone I used to love.
Our story worked because I wasn't pining for the EX. If you are, you may not yet be ready for a new relationship. Everyone's grief is different.