Best sex of your life may not be with the love of your life?

[!Joe264!]

This one is for the girls:

Ladies, I have a question that I can´t get rid of: Some time ago, one friend of mine told me that the best sex she ever had was with a past boyfriend ( I don´t know if was a boyfriend or just one night actually) but she said that to me once and she was dating this guy that she married a couple of year later. Last week, another friend told me that her current boyfriend is the love of her life, but her past boyfriend used to give her much more pleasure than him.

In my head, the best we ever had is with the one we end up with, or in other words, the love of our life. I mean, both of my friends really love their boyfriends, but it seems that the best sex vs the love of their lives maybe something different.

Is this true? I really want to understand this from the girls point of view.

[searock]

I don't think it's a gender thing, I think it depends on the individual person.

That being said, for me personally, good sex is closely tied to how emotionally close I am to my partner. That is why the best sex I've had so far has been with my current partner, the "love of my life".

[DalM0m]

One is physical. The other is emotional. Yeah it would be awesome if it was the same person but that is not always the case.

[!Joe264!]

One is physical. The other is emotional. Yeah it would be awesome if it was the same person but that is not always the case.

But how I know that? My girl for example, once we were talking and I asked her about it. She said the our sex is the best she ever had. But I know girls usually lie to guys about sex stuffs...Give me a light here, please

[DalM0m]

Joe --

If this girl loves you then you are the best sex she ever had. Even if somebody else was techically better, any woman will any sense or sensability will never tell you anything other than you are the best. The only answer every guy wants is that he is the best b/c nobody wants visions of their partner with somebody else.

Stop asking

[searock]

But how I know that? My girl for example, once we were talking and I asked her about it. She said the our sex is the best she ever had. But I know girls usually lie to guys about sex stuffs...Give me a light here, please

Why are you so obsessed? She told you she enjoys having sex with you, why aren't you satisfied with that answer? Just let it go. And do not call her a liar, do you not trust her? Why are you in a relationship with her if you don't trust her?

[!Joe264!]

Joe --

If this girl loves you then you are the best sex she ever had. Even if somebody else was techically better, any woman will any sense or sensability will never tell you anything other than you are the best. The only answer every guy wants is that he is the best b/c nobody wants visions of their partner with somebody else.

Stop asking

interesting...never heard that before...what do you mean by "technically better"??

[Wakeup]

To think that you are the best your partner ever had is ego and nothing more. To be upset because you think you may not be the best your partner ever had is also your ego giving you hell. To be unable to realize that you may not be the best when it comes to sexual passion but you are the best in all ways, including sexual satifiaction, is immaturity.

Stop wondering about this and enjoy what you have in the moment. Take her compliment as you being the best she ever had and enjoy without ego. You are causing unnecessary angst in your own life.

[!Joe264!]

Why are you so obsessed? She told you she enjoys having sex with you, why aren't you satisfied with that answer? Just let it go. And do not call her a liar, do you not trust her? Why are you in a relationship with her if you don't trust her?

I do trust her...the point is...girls never tell the truth about this subject.

[Wakeup]

I do trust her...the point is...girls never tell the truth about this subject.

How do you know that? and... if you think that of her, then NO you do not trust her. You do not trust her to tell you the truth at the very least.

How old are you, Joe?

[Starnique]

This one is for the girls:

Ladies, I have a question that I can´t get rid of: Some time ago, one friend of mine told me that the best sex she ever had was with a past boyfriend ( I don´t know if was a boyfriend or just one night actually) but she said that to me once and she was dating this guy that she married a couple of year later. Last week, another friend told me that her current boyfriend is the love of her life, but her past boyfriend used to give her much more pleasure than him.

In my head, the best we ever had is with the one we end up with, or in othe
r words, the love of our life. I mean, both of my friends really love their boyfriends, but it seems that the best sex vs the love of their lives maybe something different.

Is this true? I really want to understand this from the girls point of view.

Its possible that she may have had more pleasure with her ex. That's not abnormal. My ex and i had a good sex life but we are not compatible relationship wise. He'll even tell you that. We always said to each other we were each others best when we were dating. He wasnt a excellent bf at all but boy did he make me cum hard. So sometimes it be like that.

[!Joe264!]

Its possible that she may have had more pleasure with her ex. That's not abnormal. My ex and i had a good sex life but we are not compatible relationship wise. He'll even tell you that. We always said to each other we were each others best when we were dating. He wasnt a excellent bf at all but boy did he make me cum hard. So sometimes it be like that.

Curious..and how that works for you in your new relationship? I mean..they were not that good...can you live with that?

[searock]

I do trust her...the point is...girls never tell the truth about this subject.

1. You cannot possibly know what all girls always or never do.
2. You just repeated that you don't trust your girlfriend, you actually think she's lying to you.

[bluenote99]

to the original post very much depends on the type of person you are i personally find it very hard to detach sex from emotion therefore good sex for me is always with someone i love ergo the more i love them the better the sex others can just enjoy sex as the pleasurable activity it is without getting emotionally engaged, as regards your worries with your girlfriend just relax man, if shes happy with the physical side of things, if the other parts of your relationship are good too and better still if you love each other then why worry?

[DalM0m]

interesting...never heard that before...what do you mean by "technically better"??

His physical moves were superior to other lovers; he lasted longer, made her orgasm more & or more intensely, he was bigger (or at least "fit" better) and/or he had a shorter refraction time.

Mentally, the love of her life should have a better, deeper emotional connection.

I'll give you can example from my own life. My EX was an amazing lover. I have never encountered anybody who could hold a candle to him. He pushed every button I ever had, almost every time. We had the kind of sex life they make porn fantasies about. Outside of the bedroom almost everything else about us was a mess. Lack of respect, infedility, taking for granted, different life goals, different points of view / interests. We just didn't work when we were doing anything other than having sex. But Ooooohhhhhhhh those fireworks.

My husband is a sweet, gentle, solid man with whom I have a lot in common. He's my bedrock & my touchstone. He gives my life meaning & purpose. I love him with all my heart & soul. It doesn't matter that we don't end up in orbit every time we make love. While the fireworks may be part of my past, I wouldn't trade my husband for the world & he is "the best sex ever" because the connections we have are so much more than physical.

But seriously, if my husband asked me I would never tell him that another man gave me more orgasms. That information could only hurt his feelings & it is not an indication that I want my EX back.

Now stop asking yoru lady this question.