I was with my ex for 2 years and we broke up on mutual agreements because it did not work (mostly because of me but those reasons have changed), however we remained extremely close and have been best friends since which is about 3 years now (we still do everything together and see each other nearly every day). Neither of us has dating since because of the fear of hurting each other - so basically neither ever moved on.
For the first couple of years I suggested getting back together and tried to pursue it but never eventuated into anything - basically she turned me away. For most of this year I tried to remove most of those feelings and for the very first time starting dating again a few weeks ago. I did not tell my ex/best friend basically because I was too scared to. Eventually I decided to mention it with the hope that it was going to be all good and she had moved on. WRONG. Turns out she was still in love with me the whole time and was just too scared to say it and that she did see us getting back together in the future, getting married, kids, growing old together.
I removed those feelings because I thought I had to. I am extremely smitten by this new girl, a little too much considering it's only been 3 weeks but I know she feels the same way about me. My ex is absolutely heart broken and it is killing me inside to see her so upset - I am literally dying seeing how sad she is. I have told my new girl that I am too emotionally distraught atm to pursue anything so things are on hold. I can not stop thinking about my ex and this new girl and I just don't know what to do anyway. I had wanted to get back with my ex for so long, but mostly since meeting this new girl, those feelings have dwindled a lot. I know I would still have a great future with my ex but I've just lost those love feelings... but do i throw everything we had away because of someone I have only been dating 3 weeks? This is more a physiological thing.. 1 month ago I would have got back with my ex. Will my feelings for my ex come back after my feelings for the new girl has gone? I know it sounds like I'm being a complete jerk to the new girl, but she actually understands it very well because has been almost in the exact same situation.