Yes man it does mean that. The problem is deeper than that. You have to be more selfish. See all the guys who have GFs are selfish in some ways. Not 100% selfish but still they love themslfs too(not just their GF). You talk like if shes not loving you then no one does. What holds you back from loving yourself in first place? Show people example how to treat you. Sometimes if you want something you have to give it first. Like kissing the girl. This stupid thought - "what if she dont like it" pops in your mind which absolutly dont help. Thats what happens when you think all the time about girl when if you would be more selfish thought like " It doesnt matter if she dont like my kiss. I want it !" In the end of the day girls are so indecisive and if you like what you do they will like it too. They pretty much reflect your emotions. They will do anything if you make them feel that way. Girl is ussualy as much confident as you are. Unless you are 1d or Justin Beaber girls wont run after you and wont make first moves. And after all good woman dont give herself. You have to take it cause she knows shes worth it. If a girls is together with a real man she dont have to play man role.
Cause a real man knows a real woman when he sees her
And a real womn knows a real man ain't afraid to please her
And a real woman knows a real man always comes first
And a real man just can't deny a womans worh.
(Alicia Keys)