How the hell is that trashy and desperate? Being trashy is just being a whore and getting toyed with all the time and allowing yourself to be be treated like trash and used all the time. In other words, getting ran thru and tossed to the side, willingly. Being desperate is trying to hold on to a relationship that's not working, especially if he moving out of town and realistically they know it's not going to work. It would be desperate if she was doing it in hopes to hang on to him. If you're not on bad terms, being foolishly used or is being disrespected, I don't see how you got trashy and desperate out of that.