Why don't girls pursue guys?

[Wakeup]

I think the concensus is actually that guys have sexual motives for being friends with a girl... "dating" hasn't much to do with it.

[searock]

I think the concensus is actually that guys have sexual motives for being friends with a girl... "dating" hasn't much to do with it.

Yeah, dating, sex, that sort of thing. You guys don't believe it's possible for a guy to be friends with a girl just for the sake of friendship.

[Wakeup]

I did once and it ended badly. Guys get turned off when girls chase them. It is a biological and social thing.

There is a difference between initiating and pursuing or as you put it "chasing." I don't believe Guys get turned off when a girl shows initial interest by asking a guy out. They do get turned off if you continue to be the pursuer.

[Wakeup]

Yeah, dating, sex, that sort of thing. You guys don't believe it's possible for a guy to be friends with a girl just for the sake of friendship.

What a waste of time to be platonic friends with a guy.

*teasing you now*

[michelle23]

I prefer my female friends who I can talk dirty with without worrying that they will wana jump me

[Rowen]

Speaking as someone who has chased guys he's had feelings for before, I can imagine the woman doesn't want to put herself out there in case he doesn't chase her back... The woman would want it to be equal pursuit- both of them going after one another and never taking the other for granted.

[vashti]

It's a test of manliness. Who wants a guy who sits in a corner whining about how girls don't chase them?

[searock]

The woman would want it to be equal pursuit- both of them going after one another and never taking the other for granted.

^^^ This.

[mikedoug]

I can imagine the woman doesn't want to put herself out there in case he doesn't chase her back...

Exactly right

[mikedoug]

The woman would want it to be equal pursuit- both of them going after one another and never taking the other for granted.

Problem is most women don't feel this way.....they expect the guy to do 100% of the legwork

[mikedoug]

It's a test of manliness. Who wants a guy who sits in a corner whining about how girls don't chase them?

Who wants a woman who shows no effort when a guy is interested in her?

[mikedoug]

They do get turned off if you continue to be the pursuer.

Nope, far from it

[searock]

Problem is most women don't feel this way.....they expect the guy to do 100% of the legwork

Do you personally know "most women"? Because from what you wrote, it appears you do not.

[mikedoug]

Do you personally know "most women"? Because from what you wrote, it appears you do not.

Of course not, but everyone knows most women don't pursue. And because of this she feels she can just sit back and let him do all the work

[searock]

Of course not, but everyone knows most women don't pursue. And because of this she feels she can just sit back and let him do all the work

I don't know that most women don't pursue, therefore not everyone knows that most women don't pursue.

It is not true that most women don't pursue. You can either accept it (and deal with the fact that just because no woman has ever pursued you it doesn't mean that "most women don't pursue guys"), or you can keep living in your nice little sexistly reassuring delusion.