I have been dating my bf for almost a year and a half. We have been through some pretty rough patches and we always seem to survive, but barely. He has a problem with his anger. He is not physically or verbally abusive, he just keeps blaming all his problems on his past. And if it wasnt his past he finds a way to make me look like I am acting unreasonable to the situation. Like if I want to talk out our problem, instead of totally shutting down and letting the problem fester inside. I believe there is nothing wrong with that, and my family agrees.
Well, recently he got stationed in Japan for two years. After getting over that road block I found it quite annoying about the lack of communication we were having. Id tell him about my day, and all I would get from him was " it was fine." I hate to be pushy, but I knew something just wasnt right.
Friday night the walls came down and I was left crying and totally heart broken. He again found some way to blame his situation on how no one cares for him or how his bad past is the reason he acts the way he does. I had enough and I said "It's over!" He of course got very angry and didnt talk to me for two days.
I got a call late last night. He wanted to hear from my own mouth I didnt love him anymore. I couldnt say it! I do still love him. He and I have a friendship that I could never have with someone else. So I tried to make him promise me that he would get a book on anger management. He would not do it. He insists that his reaction to anger is perfectly normal for him.
Im not sure what to do now. We are in a kind of limbo....not together, but not apart just yet. I need to either make it or break it with in the next day. My family already hates him for doing what he did. I know I will disappoint them so much if I get back together with him. I have reason pulling me in one direction (dump him, you deserve better) and my heart pulling in the other ( he loves you and you love him back). Which should I listen to?