Erectile dysfunction... :(

[YoungCosmo]

I couldn't get hard either time I tried to have sex. Was given Viagra to help. Why would this happen to someone new to sex? You would think a newb would have premature ejac. problems, not hard-on issues..It's making me feel ashamed that at age 23, I might have E.D. What, besides Viagra, might help? Should I see a psychologist?

[Jffs24]

They shouldn't have given you viagra. **** gave it out like it was candy? Check online for better options you don't know if that drug is ok for you to take, could cause ya other problems.
You probably didn't get hard other times because you were anxious or nervous.

[YoungCosmo]

Those are good points. Unfortunately, in the last year, I have had trouble getting erections when whacking it or looking at porn. It takes a LOT for me to get a boner.

[basilandthyme]

Had you been drinking before trying to have sex? Alcohol can seriously inhibit erections

[searock]

Jeez you shouldn't have gotten Viagra. If you have no problem getting an erection when you're going solo, it means it's not a physical problem but a psychological one. Chances are, it's just performance anxiety. You put too much stress on yourself with having to be great in bed and so on, and your body reacts with the one thing you don't want to happen: you can't get it up. It's a common issue with "newbies", it can also happen to non-newbies when they have sex with a new woman for the first times. Just try to relax and keep in mind that it doesn't matter if you're not perfect. Girls know it's a common problem and they won't think any less of you because of it - it's just a phase. Premature ejaculations are just a different side to the same coin.

[michelle23]

Throw the Viagra in the bin dude. That shit is worse than steroids. If you want a libido increasing product try argi+ which is a natural product that is good for your health and increases blood flow which means more erections... Good for older men especially if any are reading this. I used to sell it. Anyway, go and get a hormonal test done. Check your testosterone levels first of all. If there is nothing wrong there, perhaps you need to lay off porn and your own hand for awhile. if that doesnt help-see a sex therapist.

Pills should ONLY be taken as a last resort. Doctors are so f**ked up. "I feel a little sad lately doc"- okay take a pill. Its ridiculous.

[j-white]

I've had similar issues due to anxiety about performing well. It only needs to happen once in order to get in your head, you then get nervous it's going to happen next time, thus making it happen. It's a vicious circle. I've even considered Viagra myself.

I find when I was so focused on sex I'd be rushing to get to it the moment I got an erection and it quickly went due to my nerves.
However, when Im just relaxing with my girlfriend, stroking her back while watching a movie in bed, or just dozing on each other in the morning, it's a lot better.

There's no pressure on us then, we just roll around and have sex without really thinking about it.
Basically it sounds like you need to stop thinking about sex in order to have it. I've been in your situation and I know how soul destroying it is at the time!

Stop thinking about sex and piling the pressure on. Also think about masturbating less if you do that very often.

[michelle23]

^^^ It likely is PA like J-white said. However, the fact this happens when you are alone, could mean their is something wrong hormonaly so you should defo get a checkup YC.

YC how often are you watching porn? That could be the problem. You are 23. If all you have done is watch porn every day for 10 years-then it could cause many problems for you. I recommend you stop watching it completely for 3 months and then watch in moderation after that

Also if you are masturbating daily or more-perhaps you should cut back. Half it for now and see if that helps

[Wakeup]

I couldn't get hard either time I tried to have sex. Was given Viagra to help. Why would this happen to someone new to sex? You would think a newb would have premature ejac. problems, not hard-on issues..It's making me feel ashamed that at age 23, I might have E.D. What, besides Viagra, might help? Should I see a psychologist?

Have you considered that you're maybe not attracted to women?

Anyway, I recommend you take two aspirins and call me in the morning.

[Wakeup]

All kidding aside and assuming your not just posting for attention once again, make an appointment with your doctor to make sure nothing is physically wrong with you, if he feels you need a psych councel, he'll refer you.

[Noveyor]

If a guy has erectile dysfunction, no matter what age, maybe you should take advantage of that and call it quits?

Many guys and girls wish they had a dying or no libido so that they can live in peace without sex.

This might also be a normal thing. Something undiscovered by science but mistakenly identified as a dysfunction. In the old days, some men lived life without ever having sex. This could be a thing that occurs that leads to that and science has not yet made any studies on this.

Why fight it?

You should take advantage of it and find out what you can do in life now that you are free of the yoke of sex.

Not that sex is a bad thing, but if you are given the opportunity to walk away from it, why not take it?

Unless you are married of course, then you have an obligation to your wife.

How many guys in this world are ruled by sex and can't stop even if they tried(although in my opinion, they are not trying hard enough)? They basically become their sexual urges and mindlessly and endlessly fap at porn or do many women or can't stay with a single woman.

[dem862]

Now that's ironic!

[YoungCosmo]

^^^ It likely is PA like J-white said. However, the fact this happens when you are alone, could mean their is something wrong hormonaly so you should defo get a checkup YC.

YC how often are you watching porn? That could be the problem. You are 23. If all you have done is watch porn every day for 10 years-then it could cause many problems for you. I recommend you stop watching it completely for 3 months and then watch in moderation after that

Also if you are masturbating daily or more-perhaps you should cut back. Half it for now and see if that helps

I watch porn rarely, maybe once or twice every 3 weeks. I usually hate most of it and get bored and frustrated.

[pcmaster]

These motivational songs should help you not give up.

[fearoflove]

Who is gay now, fag?