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    How to be 100% sure that the girl you like likes you back before asking her out?

    I just can't seem to be sure if a girl I like likes more than friends seems to like me back before I ask her out. I want to be 100% sure before asking her out because every time I ask out a girl who I like and am not 100% sure if she likes me back the same way, it seems they get scared of me. Could it be because I usually tell them I like them before asking them out?

    How can I be sure that she likes me back 100% before asking her out?

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    First of all love yourself. It will give you secure vibe and courage to escalade. Once you are 100% sure about yourself the girl will be only reflection of your perfection.
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    Believe you are good enough for her first of all. Second-dont tell her you like her. Just ask her out on a date. Wait until its more solid before discussing feelings
    "Don't ask a question if you can't handle the answer".

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    Quote Originally Posted by michelle23 View Post
    Believe you are good enough for her first of all. Second-dont tell her you like her. Just ask her out on a date. Wait until its more solid before discussing feelings
    THATS THE PROBLEM!!!

    Arrhhh!!! I GIVE UP!!!

    I always tell the girl I like her and then ask her out, maybe a few days later. Its difficult for me to just ask her out.

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    Its better to compliment first. So she knows why are shes getting attention and what ypou see in her. One compliment is enought to make a huge diference. If shes shy insecure compliment even more and repeat previous compliments(In case she didnt really believed from first time). Once she lightens up its enought. Compliment too much and she starts acting like queen and you are not a challenge for her anymore. Girls like to win over guys.
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    Well if your asking her out its kinda obvious you like her so you dont really need to say it. You are overcomplicating it and girls can smelll your fear of rejection. Be more confident, work on yourself and boost your self esteem. Just be independant and work hard. Girls will notice you and the next one will give you signals so then you can just ask her out
    "Don't ask a question if you can't handle the answer".

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    Quote Originally Posted by michelle23 View Post
    Well if your asking her out its kinda obvious you like her so you dont really need to say it. You are overcomplicating it and girls can smelll your fear of rejection. Be more confident, work on yourself and boost your self esteem. Just be independant and work hard. Girls will notice you and the next one will give you signals so then you can just ask her out
    This girl has been showing me signals...Only thing due to my history of reading signals, I just can't seem to believe the signals and ask for advice. But all people do is tell me to just ask her out.

    The signs of the girl I like liking me back are below:

    I like this girl (girl 2) who had found out I had asked out a girl (girl 1). The girl I had asked out (girl 1) lied about wanting to go out with me and the girl I like now (girl 2) doesn't know. But just recently, when walking out from my classroom after class, the girl I like now (girl 2) was with her friend and was walking in the direction I had to walk, when they noticed I was walking the same direction, they walked the other way.

    Also, just today I saw the girl I like now (girl 2) speaking to the guy she went to the school ball with.

    Another day, there was a school lecture and the girl I like now (girl 2) asked where the lecture was and I wanted to know which subject lecture she was going to go to. I knew the answer to it and she said the direct opposite. I then spoke to a few boys about the sport which I like and the girl I like also likes. The boys stopped talking and the girl I like (girl 2) said "Don't Stop, I'm listening" and I spoke to her about getting the tickets to the match and a boy told me that the girl I like always talks about the sport and that I should invite her to the match. She just smiled and didn't say anything. After, she asked me what the lecture was about and said she was going to the one I was going to. On the way to the lecture she was walking with me. When we reached the venue for the lecture, she sat down on a stair and crossed her legs with the leg crossed over facing me. At this time she was speaking about her project marks and then about watching a few boys play rugby at our school carnival after she played her sport.

    Girl 2 has shown signs which to me are signs of liking me which are below...

    SIGNS TO ME SHE LIKES ME

    I had asked out a girl who said yes but lied about wanting to go out with me. The girl I like now was surprised that I asked out a girl saying that I have a girlfriend but now, she doesn't know that the girl I asked out lied. On the same day a boy told me that the girl I asked out was lying about wanting to go out with me. This girl (who I like now) said "Talk to her and find out if she has mutual feeling for you and if she actually wants to go out with you. Just to make sure. She is a nice girl, I don't think she will be lying." saying it with a sad face and tone. On the same day, she said she wondered why guys don't ask her out. (She said this when I was close to her but not directly to me).

    The day or two after finding out I asked out a girl, she was talking about our essay project to me and another girl. She read one of the paragraphs and she looked at the girl 3-4 times and to me 7-8 times when reading it. I told her that I thought it was a good paragraph and she was smiling a bit.

    Before she found out I asked out a girl she showed signs that to me told me she likes me...

    When talking to me about my schoolwork, she touched/tapped my arm and later my back (this has never happened with other girls). Also her hand was close to mine and she didn't move her hand away and when passing pencils and pens to each other, she always made a way for me to touch her hand or her to touch my hand.

    She talks to me and asks questions about my life (If I have brother or sisters) and random questions (If I can do cross eyes, How many children I want when older, about the sport we both like)

    She looks at me a lot. She also leans backwards towards me when sitting in class (she sits in front of me).

    We were talking in a group and I did something and she said we have to have dinner before we go there and was laughing/smiling

    she yelled my name out in a public place (school excursion) when she was with her girl friends and also in class (when in class she yelled my name out a lot throughout the lesson). It was also someones birthday on that same day as the excursion and her friend offered me some cake and she said that she made it.

    She also enjoys the sport I like and the girl I asked out doesn’t really talk about the sport. (Seems to have things in common to me)

    One of her good girl friends stare/look at me in one of the classes I'm in with her. When I walked passed her group, one of her girl friends looked at me as I walked passed.

    I have been having exams and every time I see her after the exam she looks/stares at me. One time she was in her group and I saw her looking at me but I walked passed her. After I saw her with another guy (might has kissed on the cheek) (this guy has a girlfriend) and she looked at me. The next day of exams, she walked passed where I was standing and her eyes seemed to follow where I was standing.

    When in class one time, I sat next to this girl and randomly she asked how many kids I would like to have when older. I said how many my partner wants to have but below a certain amount. Without me asking her she just randomly said she wanted a certain amount of children. She was sitting next to one of her girl friends in the class and she didn't really notice anything happen and the question wasn't directed to her.

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    Im watching this right now. Maybe it can help you.

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    You can never be totally sure - you just take an informed chance. Obviously if this girl always avoids you or shows no signs of interest whatsoever, you might be pushing it...but otherwise, just ask her out to a movie or whatever. That already implies you like her so you don't have to preface it with "I like you". That's a bit silly and redundant.

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    Quote Originally Posted by the_one_1 View Post
    THATS THE PROBLEM!!!

    Arrhhh!!! I GIVE UP!!!

    I always tell the girl I like her and then ask her out, maybe a few days later. Its difficult for me to just ask her out.

    That would creep me out. It's really stalkerish. Ask her out, and THEN as things progress, you tell her you like her.

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    " just be cool and say "Hey how ya doin? I think you and I should go out tonight, say we go see that new movie blah blah blah. You in?" While you are doing that, just be leaning up against the wall with one hand leaning in front of her and focus on her.



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    Quote Originally Posted by the_one_1 View Post
    I want to be 100% sure before asking her out because every time I ask out a girl who I like and am not 100% sure if she likes me back the same way, it seems they get scared of me.
    How can I be sure that she likes me back 100% before asking her out?
    Perhaps you're coming off as a crazy stalker.

    You can't. Take a leap of faith, and just do it.

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    How about you just grow a pair and tell her how you feel? Because if you can't do that, how in hell are you ever going to ask her out?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rowen View Post
    How about you just grow a pair and tell her how you feel? Because if you can't do that, how in hell are you ever going to ask her out?
    Thats the problem Row,. He tells them he likes them(but dont ask out) and they distance from his wide spreaded legs cause hes not a challenge anymore.
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    Quote Originally Posted by TablesandChairs View Post
    You can never be totally sure - you just take an informed chance. Obviously if this girl always avoids you or shows no signs of interest whatsoever, you might be pushing it...but otherwise, just ask her out to a movie or whatever. That already implies you like her so you don't have to preface it with "I like you". That's a bit silly and redundant.
    What if she avoids me but looks at me all the time... This has been happening a lot

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