Boyfriend wants to smoke pot again

[melyssa920]

My boyfriend and i have been dating for about eight months now! He came into our relationship knowing i disapprove of pot and dont date pot smokers. Before he met me he was a big pot smoker. He hasnt smoked since we started dating because he knew i wouldnt approve. I respected him for that very much! But just the other day he told me he misses smoking and nothing would be affected in our relationship if he did it and the only reason he stopped is because of me, and he wants to do it really bad!! But my views arent going to change because he wants to start again. He knows he's going to hurt me by doing it. Its just we have different views on it he thinks its completely fine and i dont think its fine to do drugs. I dont want to threaten him and say im going to leave him if he does it because i love him but im also not going to just put up with it and let him hurt my feelings by doing it! I just dont know what to do! Please help!~~

[Junket]

I think you're selfish.

Now I don't approve of smoking at all.

But he at least cut down for you, because you don't "approve".

What are you his mother?

Stop tryin' to act the victim, get over yourself cause it's not all about you.

[blue]

i have been in a similar situation and have a thread somewhere too go find it. neway you can only l;ove someone for who they are and that comes with the bad and the good. the issue was huge between my honey and i and to be honest i felt that he was not there for me when i needed hin the most. he no longer cares to let something like that get inbetween us, and i am figuring i should do the same. there has to be some form of compromising on both parts

[blue]

[url]http://www.loveforum.net/t3534-little-probelm-in-the-pot.html[/url] here is my thread. if you really love him then this can be worked out

[Innova]

"Loves someone for their attributes, but also accept their faults...for this is who they are."

I do not like drugs at all, but if you love him, then at the very least be happy he cut down. As blue said, there has to be a compromising effect here. You knew he did it when you went out with him. You have to take things slowly, if he knows you understand..then eventually maybe he'll quit on his own terms. He already cut back, as said...and this is a start.

Just tell him not to do it in front or around you, and if he does do it..too not do it so much. Makes him understand that you care, but at the same time don't corner him. This will send him a polite message, this way he doesn't get all rebel on you, and get all super smoker on you.

[Pilot]

Hey,

I won't go out with drug takers, nor smokers. I think things like that have the ability to take hold of someones life (they get addicted) and ruin their lifestyle.

Maybe sit down and have a sensible discussion about it, see if you can come to some sort of conclusion. I personally would terminate the relationship immediately. I know people here are talking about accepting people for their faults..etc but there are certain things that actually get to us all (can even be little petty things) and we can't just accept it.

so overall, it's up to you really, but do have a talk about it first.

[Only-virgins]

ROFL. Smoking weed is not a fault he has like everyone makes it sound...its just plain simply retarded. If I were you I would make fun of him..."Fawking losers smoke pot you dumb dip shit" ...shit like that and if his brain is not fried to much from it yet then maybe he will realize its stupid and stop....or....call the cops..lol I would do that..it would be funny. Some community service will do him good. Find out were he buys that shit and tip of the cops ( I did that to 2 people I know)..its awesome and hilarious!

I don't know what I would do if someone I loved smoked weed...I guess I would ask them kindly to stop.

[TKO]

Find out were he buys that shit and tip of the cops

maybe you don't have to go that far but you should realize that if he is addicted to drugs and really can't give it up, you may love him but he's problaby headed down the wrong road... if he starts again and your okay with it what happens if it gets worse or he gets into other drugs? or what happens if he does get busted or does something stupid? will you stll love him after that cause you deserve better... just remember it's not a small problem or something thats just gonna go away

[Ratfish256]

Just to clear something up. I have smoked pot for a while and last fall smoked almost everyday. It was no where near addictive though. There was never an urge to smoke. It was just like "Hey do you guys want to go smoke?". "Smoke" could be replaced by movies or down town. I really doubt that weed is physically habit forming. It may be mental, but you can become addicted to pretty much anything mentally. Maybe you should just sit him down and tell him how much you really dont like it. Or find out why he wants to do it again. As far as Im concerned I havent smoked in a little while (a week maybe haha) and I have no "cravings" to smoke, I never did and I doubt I ever will.

[KirstyM]

If I were you, I'd just dump him. If he wants to smoke pot that's fine, but I wouldnt want anything to do with it.

[Junket]

maybe you don't have to go that far but you should realize that if he is addicted to drugs and really can't give it up, you may love him but he's problaby headed down the wrong road... if he starts again and your okay with it what happens if it gets worse or he gets into other drugs? or what happens if he does get busted or does something stupid? will you stll love him after that cause you deserve better... just remember it's not a small problem or something thats just gonna go away

What the hell are you talking about?

You're acting like this dude is an addict.

[Stillinlove]

What the hell are you talking about?

You're acting like this dude is an addict.

someone is on the defensive <.<

[moeburn]

Where would the fun in love be if the partner didn't do anything you hate?

[Illusional]

everyone has their vices.. .what's yours??

however if you really think that this is a problem and you can't stand to see him smoke weed, then leave. it's sucks, but you either except a person as they are, or find someone else.

raverboy

[Only-virgins]

Where would the fun in love be if the partner didn't do anything you hate?

uhhh...less suffering?