Hello ladies,
today I came to you seeking advice, because I'm unsure how to proceed with this situation, if I should proceed at all or if I'm being stupid about the situation.
Me and this girl, we go a long way back, it all started with daily conversations through Skype to actual meet-ups, but in our 7 year long relationship we have never dated or hung out to do any kind of activities together. Given, I really liked her and wanted to date her, but got rejected at the time, same 7 years ago, we remained friends. Four years ago she stared dating someone and got together with that person. I didn't pay any mind to it because we were just friends, so it didn't bother me.
This summer, we met up after a long a time of not seeing each other, because on Skype we had a dispute on which restaurant is better, the one that I like or the one that she likes, so we made up our minds to clear the dispute. Along all that she also said there are some movies she'd like to see.
The first restaurant we went to was hers. It was alright I thought, not the best. At the end, we ended up splitting the bill, she payed for her meal I payed for mine, I thought that was pretty normal. Afterwards, on the way home, we had a slight discussion about our past, which eventually led my curiosity to ask her what exactly happened. To which she replied that I was too slow and missed my chance. I thought that was funny, I didn't say anything, but she was the one who rejected me, not my slowness.
The next time we went to my favorite restaurant. Needless to say I was very happy to go there, she also said the food was great, so I was satisfied. However a strange thing, I payed for the both of us, which confused me a bit. It wasn't a date, so why? She could have at least asked how much did I pay, but displayed no interest. She's not the golddigger type, I'm sure of that. After dinner we went on a long walk home and along the way, I thought it'd be okay to ask how's her relationship and from what I could tell, it wasn't going too well. That raised a red flag.
So now she wants to watch a movie with me and not just any movie, but a movie that I think would be best to watch with someone you're together with, e.g. her boyfriend, because it's a movie about kids. Now, we haven't gotten a chance to watch the movie, we're both too busy, or one of us is unavailable when the other is available. I'm unsure what she'll think of that time together. Not to mention she want's to watch the movie with me in my apartment.
I'm single at the moment and if a girl approaches me like this, I'm inclined to think she wants more than just being friends, however she has a boyfriend and that's what freaks me out.
How should I go about this situation, what is going through her mind? Is it that she thinks I'm like one of her girlfriends(I'm a guy hello), is there more to it? Or am I just being crazy and overthinking it?
Also I'm unsure weather I even want to be together with her, she did break my achy-breaky heart back then.
Note that we haven't done any activities together until this summer, so why, what has changed?