Is Not Giving a Blow Job a Deal Breaker

[Simpo]

I don't think any sort of sexual act should be a deal breaker. If he cares about you then sexual pleasure should be second, third, fourth etc. on his list, anything but first. Your clearly not comfortable with blow jobs so you should only do them on special occasions (birthdays, special nights away, anniversary's etc) or just when ever you are comfortable giving them. A guy should be able to survive without getting a blow job haha. They feel really nice and can be a very pleasurable experience though so as I said you could possible give them on special occasions as a reward.

Another way of giving a type of oral that you may find slightly more comfotable is, you could always bend down on your knees and and just tease his member with your tongue and give it quick pecks while giving him a handjob

[michelle23]

i dont think the issue here is that you refused to do it. it sounds to me like thats all he wants. the fact he flat out asked for one before you ever offered and the fact hes so "busy" etc id say your being used..

[Wakeup]

UPDATE: well I called him and he did not pick up but he did call me back. He sounded tired and said he has had some crazy work days. He then told me he would call me that night but he never did

Do you seriously think that if you blew him he would have jumped on the phone when it rang? He's just a lazy twit who is likely getting it from a few women who don't give a crap and are just looking to orgasm (or that's what the try to fool themselves into believing) (while later falling for him and then wondering why he doesn't love them back). It's crazy now adays to think that a guy that gets it a lot is a stud.. it's just too simple to score for it to be a High five moment for any dude. Now, like what woman used to be labelled, he's just a slut himself.

OP: Don't call him again. Let him pursue you for a bit and if he doesn't then just move on. I think when you take the time to know a guy, discover that he actually loves and values you BEFORE you get any type of sexually intimate, when the time comes, you'll be much more open to putting your mouth over his goods.

BTW: Did you ask him about exclusivity before you got jiggy with him? If not, why didn't you, sista?

[Allie1040]

He told his family I was his girlfriend and I made it clear to him that I just don't sleep around with random guys without a commitment. I messages him and said I was sorry I offended him the other night by saying no and hopefully I could make it up to him in the future

[LifeInflux]

He told his family I was his girlfriend and I made it clear to him that I just don't sleep around with random guys without a commitment. I messages him and said I was sorry I offended him the other night by saying no and hopefully I could make it up to him in the future

As long as you're okay with what that probably means to him, then you're good.

[smackie9]

Allie I think you are reading too much into this. I don't think he is blowing you off. It sounds to me he is genuine when he says he is tired from work, and he didn't call you back because he fell asleep. Stop being such a suck up because it makes you look needy and guys don't like that shit....probably why he didn't want to respond to that, because it's dumb...... Stop worrying about it and find something else to do with your time. He will call you when his work week is done and is freed up.

[Allie1040]

He responded back and said "haha maybe."

[anonymous_a]

It could be a deal breaker for some, but if a man really likes you, for you, he won't make you feel pressured into doing anything you're not comfortable with. On the other hand, how would you feel if you asked to be pleasured (not via sex) and he turned you down because it made him feel uncomfortable? It may be time to do some research and see if this is something you can see yourself doing in the future. You may also, eventually meet a guy who you feel is worth going through the discomfort for.

[anonymous_a]

i dont think the issue here is that you refused to do it. it sounds to me like thats all he wants. the fact he flat out asked for one before you ever offered and the fact hes so "busy" etc id say your being used..

Agreed. Do NOT call him again, you are coming off as a doormat.

[LifeInflux]

He responded back and said "haha maybe."

I think you should let it go for a bit.. just give him some breathing room and see if he contacts you.

You can do that, or you can sext him... with a picture of me. It won't get the results you want, but if he ends up liking it, at least you'll know there are bigger problems to deal with.

[Wakeup]

He responded back and said "haha maybe."

Yea.. let him do some pursuing now. Don't call him again until/if he calls you. Then once it's clear that he actually does like and want to be with you, you'll feel more comfortable initiating some, then.

[VincenzoG91]

Maybe he doesn't want a relationship and just wanted a blowjob.

[fearoflove]

You can get stds by giving/receiving oral unless you use a condom (and using condom for oral is pathetic because the receiver can't feel much).

[LifeInflux]

You can get stds by giving/receiving oral unless you use a condom (and using condom for oral is pathetic because the receiver can't feel much).

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[Wakeup]

You can get stds by giving/receiving oral unless you use a condom (and using condom for oral is pathetic because the receiver can't feel much).

It's called a blow job but you're suppose to suck, not blow.