I need help. So a little back ground, I've been into older women for as long as I can remember, I even remember finding the lady running the preschool I went to pretty, through Elementary school some teachers I had I found extremely attractive as well as through middle, high school and some college as well. I've dated a few older women, it's been great, fallen in love, fallen out of love... I've tried girls my age too, by the way I'm 22. I've tried girls my age but the ones I've met are just so vapid, self absorbed and I just don't find them attractive.
Before you say it, no I don't have mommy issues, I have both parents and we get along great so I don't think it's that. I find that up till now and through school I was a lot more mature than my peers.
So anyways, I met someone online, we clicked, within a few weeks of talking she flew from Arizona to Washington to see me, we spent a few days together (best of my life) and she went home, we continued talking for a little. I quit my job and took a month long college course, the course had 2 sections with a week in between so I went to see her between that time (now the new best days of my life) I came home, we talked more, day and night, I took my second course and when that finished I went back for a longer time, it just feels so right being with her.
I come back home and say I'm going to move to Arizona to be with her, that was almost a month ago, I'll be moving to Arizona on the 19th. I've already got the car insurance figured out, she's flying to Portland to meet me for the drive (I wanted to drive a little myself) I already kinda have a job lined up there, I'm all set to go, just waiting to leave..
Now my problem, what's causing the most amount of stress since her and I have been together.
When she came here I said I was meeting someone (btw, I still live with my parents and have never really brought a girl home, I've always gone to them, I'm kind of a private person and I'm not sure how they'd feel about me being in relationships with women 20 +/- years older than me) So when I told my parents I was going to meet a girl I told them she was 25, they were really excited for me. They're still under the impression that she's 25, I just don't know how to tell them. They know I'm attracted to older women, the weather lady on the local news, Katherine Zeta Jones, etc etc. I was speaking to a woman in London for a year and a half and was planning on going to see her and my parents knew of her and her age, I don't think they were too happy about it but they knew of it.
I just don't know how to tell them now, I know I'll just get loads of grief about it until I leave and they'll (my mom especially) will make it her life's goal to keep me from going. I really think they would like her if they met her, I want them to meet her but it's just scary for me. I feel like a p*ssy, and a bad son and pretty much every sh*tty feeling you could feel, it's depressing me and stressing me out, I don't know what to do. And it's not only the fact that she's 42, she has 3 kids, and one of them is older than I am. None of this bothers me either.
What I think my parents will say is that she's taking advantage of me, a young guy to latch on to, to try to take my money because she can't handle things on her own, what's her problem, why is she divorced, I'm throwing my life away etc etc. Anything you could come up with is what they would think or say. And I know none of those are true.
They have seen pictures of her, she looks young but I thought they would have questioned if she was actually 25, I get the impression they are at least a little skeptical about it. It's so hard to make up lie after lie about things, like things she's done in her life that I have to squish into a shorter time frame of 25 years I just don't know how to tell them. I was thinking about telling them when I get there, maybe a few weeks or months in telling them that I'm madly in love with her, happier than I've ever been, that I am so sorry that I didn't tell them before and felt horrible about it but didn't think they would really understand, or something along those lines...
If anyone has any suggestions I would be so grateful, I hope there's no judgement but understand if there is, just understand that I am so incredibly happy and this feels as right as anything ever could. If you've spent the time to read, thank you.