I need some advice

[cheri6666]

I have been dating a guy exclusively for the a little over a year. We both work and have a lot on our plate. Our sex life is suffering and I believe he may have Erectile Dysfunction. I tried talking to him about it and I even sent him an email. I told him I would go with him to the doctor and support him anyway I can. He didn't acknowledge the possible issue of ED but he said to several times he would fix things. This started over 7 months ago....way too long to go without any sex. The few times we had sex since then he struggled to keep an erection. Since I approached him with my concern it appears he is pulling away. Calling less..and seeing me less. I became fed up over the last few days and told him it's over. I now have a ton of regret and sadness. We texted briefly after I called and told him it's over but I feel so bad. Was I wrong in ending this? I really love this man and want to work this out but it appears he isn't willing to go to the doctor to find out what's wrong. Should I try to reconcile with him or just leave? The last thing he told me is he love's me but he can't talk or think about this right now. That was 4 days ago and I have not tried to contact him since. What should I do?

[basilandthyme]

Continue as you are. Supporting a partner through medical issues is one thing....but of they are refusing to seek help even though it's to the detriment of the relationship, it's another thing altogether.

[Boisdevie]

You've told him you're not happy with the situation. He's unwilling to do anything to improve matters. So he's not taking you very seriously. So he doesn't really care does he otherwise he'd get off his arse and do something about this. So why bother trying to continue such a worthless relationship?

[oceansofpeople]

For supporting him is a sign that you love him. Don't live him alone in time of this situation. You don't know he is afraid for the result.
Just give him more time think.

[TablesandChairs]

Does he get morning erections? If so, then his issue is probably psychological, not physical. He might be stressed, depressed...or gay.

[michelle23]

there could be 100 reasons why. it doesnt matter coz hes not willing to fix it. 7months without sex? id be singing "these boots are made for walking and thats just what theyl do"

you cant fix him. he needs to do that alone. he could be stressed, depressed, have low testosterone, porn addiction, cheating, anxiety, could be gone off you, gay etc

theres nothing you can do though so just move on. you shouldnt be having any problems with sex so early in a relationship. if you were together ten years-id tell you to give it one last try but 1year? no way